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Re: Re: Re: A waste of time!
Originally posted by Georgi
And I had to read that reply. :p *shows Thantor the door* :D


*Thantor admires Georgi's door, especially the brass knockers.* :D
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Re: Re: Re: A waste of time!
Originally posted by Georgi
@Scayde and CE :eek: Surely there must have been something good about your former husbands and the time you spent with them though, or you wouldn't have married them...?! ;)


My first husband was a great person, I really loved him...until we married after having been together for 6 years. Then, everything went downhill in an amazing pace, and half a year later I met Silur and that was obviously the nail in the coffin for that marriage.

Most of my relationships with men have been a waste of time and energy really, however, there is nothing I'd rather waste my time and energy on :)
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Re: Re: Re: Re: A waste of time!
Originally posted by C Elegans
My first husband was a great person, I really loved him...until we married after having been together for 6 years. Then, everything went downhill in an amazing pace...


What was it that sent your relationship into a tailspin, @CE? Something within the marriage, itself?
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: A waste of time!
Originally posted by fable
What was it that sent your relationship into a tailspin, @CE? Something within the marriage, itself?


The short answer is: my job.

The long answer is: Over time, our values and wishes regarding our relationships changed, and my ex (who was 8 years older than I) became increasingly focused on our common home, family life and getting children, whereas I rapidly got progressively entangled in my studying and later, my research. When I started at the lab where I work now, I was still a student - actually I studied double full time, psychology and neuroscience, when I took the job. That of course meant early mornings and very, very late nights...I was busy 15-16 h a day, 7 days a week. My ex obviously, at a subconscious level, expected my priorities to change when we married. I carefully explained to him before that nothing would change because we married, and he said he fully accepted and understood that (which I think he believed himself at the time) but as soon as we got married, it seemed to trigger a kit full of conventional and traditional expectations of how a marriage should be. Quite obviouly I didn't fulfill his expectations, so conflicts arouse constantly as my highest priority was my job, not our relationship as he wished.

Relationships are essential for the human being, and it's a very important part of life - but to me, it's not the most important and this my ex could (quite understandably I think) never accept. He waited for me to change, most of my men has waited for me to change...and when I don't, and they get dissappointed and angry and feel used and let down...
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Re: Re: Re: Re: A waste of time!
Originally posted by thantor3
*Thantor admires Georgi's door, especially the brass knockers.* :D
heh. Young Frankenstein. Cool. :cool: :D
That there; exactly the kinda diversion we coulda used.
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