When I was a 16-year-old high school student, I got involved in a serious relationship with a 19-year-old college student. I guess that in my case, you could say that I "liked an older guy". But it's just plain dumb to jump to any other conclusions from there. I wasn't looking for "an older guy", and I didn't have anything against my "peers". The only thing you can deduce from my situation is that out of all the guys I knew, he was the one I fell in love with. He was in the age range that I considered suitable for myself at the time (16-21).dragon wench wrote:Claudius,
have you ever been a young woman? You are making a lot of assumptions here...
I grant you that for some girls in that age bracket there is a mystique and coolness factor involved. BUT, there are plenty of girls who just do not find their male peers very appealing; many are extremely immature.
Yes that sucks (or not) for teen guys, and I can understand the frustration and resentment, but.. the reality is that many just do not make attractive sexual partners.
Most people thought that I had made a good choice because he was a "good catch". And our difference in age and social status (high school student versus college student, legal adult versus minor, someone who could be bossed around by parents and teachers versus an independent adult, etc.) wasn't a big deal at all to anybody I knew.
On the contrary, people found my current relationship even more odd when it first began, since I was 30 and my boyfriend was 22 when we started dating. And needless to say, I get even more questions and disapproving looks from people who think it's wrong for a woman my age to be unmarried and childless.
As a result, I don't think people have any business telling other people what's right and what's wrong. If you ask them to justify their beliefs, it always turns out that they are simply prejudiced and clueless.
