I hesitate to call my actions "cyber sex", but I guess you could say I have engaged in it before. It was more like flirting than an actual simulation of sex, though. I haven't done it recently with anyone except my boyfriend, and I don't expect to do it with anyone else anytime soon.
Sometimes talking to people I know in an intimate way is a turn-on to me. Sometimes talking to an interesting stranger about
anything is a turn-on to me. My boyfriend has always been very clever and funny, and that's a turn-on in itself. But graphic descriptions of sex acts and other bodily functions always seem kind of silly to me, because I just don't think that what we imagine and write are really all that similar to the real thing. It always seems phony, contrived, and forced. Most of the time it is also vulgar and clumsy. It usually makes me wonder, "What's the point?" (Simulations with live actors in movies is a completely different matter, because at least in that case, it's physically "real".)
Real life is much different from our fantasies and expectations. Even though we might feel stirrings of passion because of what we experience in front of our computers screens (or in front of books, TV screens, etc.--I don't deny it happens), when we actually meet someone in real life, a lot of other things besides our imagination are at work. If I were "available" and looking for a new partner, I wouldn't try to meet someone by "cybering". If I were alone, I wouldn't use "cyber sex" as a substitute for the real thing. I don't think I would use it to "explore my fantasies", either. I think the problem for me is that I can't suspend disbelief (I guess I'm too practical and skeptical), so again, my reaction is, "What's the point?" If my fantasies are deficient, it doesn't bother me.
On a related note, I've never posted a picture of myself on the internet or described myself physically in any detail to anybody I didn't know. I have nothing to be ashamed of, but I just don't feel comfortable with that. I wouldn't expect anyone who didn't know me to take anything I said at face value, anyway (although the world is full of suckers), since, "On the internet, everyone knows you're a dog."
