Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2002 12:27 pm
I think that parental responsibility boils down to wanting to ensure that your children do as well as (if not better) in life than you did. To me that means taking an interest in academic progress, socialisation and offering as many options in extra-curricular activities as are feasible.
I come from a family where each of my parents has three college degrees (I currently have two), so education was something that is expected. As I have said before, my parents went to all of the open houses, attended each parent-teacher conference and were reasonably active in PTA activities. I am a classic underachiever, not because my parents didn't care about my education, but because school bored me. However, my parents instilled in me a love of learning and made sure that I was fairly active in extra-curricular activites and sports. When possible they gave me the opportunity to do "extra" things like going to soccer camp, elective summer school, academic trips, taekwondo tournaments, etc.
They also made sure that I would be provided a college education if that was the path I chose after high school (it was). To me, that is how parental responsibility should be. They gave me the opportunity and put the onus on me to take advantage of the things they could offer me. Still, I was the one who had to do the work, takes the tests and get the grades.
Parental responsibility and accountability is something that parents must take upon themselves, it's not something that can be legislated or enforced. Parental responsibility is also something that people need to assume because they want to, not because they are ordered to by a court or guilted into it by society. That's part of the problem of being a parent: everybody can do it, but not everyone should.
I see modern black culture in America suffering the most due to a lack of parental responsibility. There is a trend among black men (and boys) to father large numbers of children with multiple partners and not take responsibility for any of them. There is no marraige, not even common-law partnerships, and as a result, many black (and mixed-race) children are growing up without fathers and being raised either by single mothers or extended family.
In my opinion, this is one of the most disturbing trends in the United States: Children growing up without parental involvement. It happens in other segments of society, but it is most prevalent in the children of single black fathers.
I come from a family where each of my parents has three college degrees (I currently have two), so education was something that is expected. As I have said before, my parents went to all of the open houses, attended each parent-teacher conference and were reasonably active in PTA activities. I am a classic underachiever, not because my parents didn't care about my education, but because school bored me. However, my parents instilled in me a love of learning and made sure that I was fairly active in extra-curricular activites and sports. When possible they gave me the opportunity to do "extra" things like going to soccer camp, elective summer school, academic trips, taekwondo tournaments, etc.
They also made sure that I would be provided a college education if that was the path I chose after high school (it was). To me, that is how parental responsibility should be. They gave me the opportunity and put the onus on me to take advantage of the things they could offer me. Still, I was the one who had to do the work, takes the tests and get the grades.
Parental responsibility and accountability is something that parents must take upon themselves, it's not something that can be legislated or enforced. Parental responsibility is also something that people need to assume because they want to, not because they are ordered to by a court or guilted into it by society. That's part of the problem of being a parent: everybody can do it, but not everyone should.
I see modern black culture in America suffering the most due to a lack of parental responsibility. There is a trend among black men (and boys) to father large numbers of children with multiple partners and not take responsibility for any of them. There is no marraige, not even common-law partnerships, and as a result, many black (and mixed-race) children are growing up without fathers and being raised either by single mothers or extended family.
In my opinion, this is one of the most disturbing trends in the United States: Children growing up without parental involvement. It happens in other segments of society, but it is most prevalent in the children of single black fathers.