The Valentine's Day Massacre -- The Valentine's Thread for Bitter Single Folks

Ideal Maxima · Post by **Ideal Maxima** » Mon Feb 14, 2005 2:53 pm

Well, looks like I have better luck than you guys, me and my GF share the same amount of love for eachother and we care about eachother.And the best part is, SHE'S GORGEOUS!!!

hmm... I don't really have a story here, I just wanted to point that out

Magrus · Post by **Magrus** » Mon Feb 14, 2005 3:00 pm

I really hope it stays that way, most relationships are wonderful for the first few months though. Mine were.

CM · Post by CM » Mon Feb 14, 2005 3:54 pm

You are 12 you will learn

werebeargoddess · Post by **werebeargoddess** » Mon Feb 14, 2005 5:11 pm

I don't have a boyfrienf at all, and I never have, but there are guys in my orchestra class who I get along with quite well, even though they are all a year or two younger than me. One boy in particular I'm good friends with, who palys the same instrument as me. This one person asked me once if me and the other boy are going out, but we aren't. Though, if I had to go out with anyone, it would be him.

Aegis · Post by **Aegis** » Mon Feb 14, 2005 8:29 pm

[QUOTE=werebeargoddess]I don't have a boyfrienf at all, and I never have, but there are guys in my orchestra class who I get along with quite well, even though they are all a year or two younger than me. One boy in particular I'm good friends with, who palys the same instrument as me. This one person asked me once if me and the other boy are going out, but we aren't. Though, if I had to go out with anyone, it would be him.[/QUOTE]
This one time... At Band Camp...

Magrus · Post by **Magrus** » Mon Feb 14, 2005 8:32 pm

@Aegis, I got one of those stories at my graduation party from a friend of mine who played the french horn. *shakes my head* Have it on video tape too.

Aegis · Post by **Aegis** » Mon Feb 14, 2005 8:34 pm

[QUOTE=Magrus]@Aegis, I got one of those stories at my graduation party from a friend of mine who played the french horn. *shakes my head* Have it on video tape too.

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Yeah.... I really wouldn't want that sort of thing on tape... Regardless of who's the one it's incriminating...

Magrus · Post by **Magrus** » Mon Feb 14, 2005 8:45 pm

Luckily it was just the girl telling the story while we were eating that was caught on tape. I don't know if I could have handled more than that to be honest, and I've quite a tolerance for strange things.

Locke Da'averan · Post by **Locke Da'averan** » Tue Feb 15, 2005 12:29 pm

[QUOTE=Ideal Maxima]Well, looks like I have better luck than you guys, me and my GF share the same amount of love for eachother and we care about eachother.And the best part is, SHE'S GORGEOUS!!!

hmm... I don't really have a story here, I just wanted to point that out

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i honestly hope that when(trust me you will unless you're that 1/1000000000000000000000 lucky guy) you two will breakup after a discussion and a hug, not you catching her doing something premiscious with another guy or smth like that... or worse find out she's been lying to you for months or worse, years and cheating on you at the same time.. not from a personal experience but it was pretty goddamn close to that metaphor

Vicsun · Post by **Vicsun** » Tue Feb 15, 2005 12:44 pm

[QUOTE=Locke Da'averan]i honestly hope that when(trust me you will unless you're that 1/1000000000000000000000 lucky guy) you two will breakup after a discussion and a hug, not you catching her doing something premiscious with another guy or smth like that... or worse find out she's been lying to you for months or worse, years and cheating on you at the same time.. not from a personal experience but it was pretty goddamn close to that metaphor[/QUOTE]
He's twelve. Drama usually comes later in life. They'll likely break up as they realize having a significant other is pointless at a pre-pubescent stage

Brynn · Post by **Brynn** » Tue Feb 15, 2005 1:01 pm

Hey, ppl, try to be a bit more encouraging

Vicsun · Post by **Vicsun** » Tue Feb 15, 2005 1:21 pm

[QUOTE=Brynn]Hey, ppl, try to be a bit more encouraging

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Why? I've never fully understood the concept of encouragement.

And besides, my post was slightly encouraging - I predicted his relationship won't end in her cheating on him/lying to him/any other kind of drama. That is a consolation of a sort, right?

Luis Antonio · Post by **Luis Antonio** » Tue Feb 15, 2005 1:30 pm

[QUOTE=Vicsun]Why? I've never fully understood the concept of encouragement.

And besides, my post was slightly encouraging - I predicted his relationship won't end in her cheating on him/lying to him/any other kind of drama. That is a consolation of a sort, right?

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Unfortunately, I have to agree with Vicsun in all his points.

Some things wont change, except if humankind is born with a new whole operational sistem where depression and passion wont exist.

Let us only hope the kid has enough strenght/ mind to deal with this trouble the day it comes.

Magrus · Post by **Magrus** » Tue Feb 15, 2005 1:54 pm

You know, I have to say, I'll wish the best to just about anyone. As a child though, my mother tried sheltering me and my father was bluntly honest and realistic about reality. I thanked my father a few years ago for that, it couldn't have been easy for him to explain to me how things really are and work as a child. It upset me quite often, but it helped me work things out for myself.

Glossing over the reality of things doesn't make anything better, it's denial. However much people want it to be true, chances are when you first fall for that first special someone, it won't last. Chances are the second, third, up to the ninth or so won't last either. It takes a while to find someone who's right for you, and how to learn what makes a relationship work. Just like everything else, you'll screw up a few times before getting it right. Some people do fall in love young, and stay together for their whole lives though, so who knows.

IMO it's best people know young how hard it is to maintain a relationship, and how lucky they should feel to have a healthy one if it stays that way. That way they appreciate it and keep up the effort it takes to maintain it, rather than blow it off. A good number of my relationships were failures for the simple fact the girls were young and immature and didn't know how to act in a relationship. A few of them have realized this over the past few years too and mentioned it to me in a variety of ways.

Stoned_Golem · Post by **Stoned_Golem** » Tue Feb 15, 2005 4:07 pm

Crash! Burn!!...

[QUOTE=Quark]

What makes 1 day out of 365 so much more appropriate for being romantic? Valentine's day is an excuse for people to get away with nothing for the rest of the year.[/QUOTE]

I agree with the last sentence, but not the first. I think that it has been taken advantage of. But don't you know the story of Saint Valentine? I think that story gives enough reason to mark that day as special. For those of you who dont know the story, St. Valentine was in prison for being christian, and while there he fell in love with a blind girl (dont ask me HOW) and he became known as a healer when she could see after meeting him. Then he was sent to his execution, she found out a lil while after ran to his cell and found a note. It said that he loved here etc etc then signed it "Your Valentine" I like this story regardless whther it is fictatious or not

Brynn · Post by **Brynn** » Wed Feb 16, 2005 2:45 am

[QUOTE=Vicsun]Why? I've never fully understood the concept of encouragement.[/QUOTE]
It's just... Try to understand him - he's in love, happy with his gf, why jump at him and start feeding him with horroristic glimpses of future? Whether they'll break up or not, time will tell. Even it is very likely that a teenage love won't last forever, this is not someone likes to hear when he's in

He'll see for himself.

Luis Antonio · Post by **Luis Antonio** » Wed Feb 16, 2005 7:04 am

Disgraces never come alone, they always walk in packs, of twenty, thirty. And they usually are side by side with lovers

VonDondu · Post by **VonDondu** » Wed Feb 16, 2005 7:39 am

When Valentine's Day was originally invented, it wasn't intended to celebrate passionate love and companionship. As I understand it, the two main reasons for having it were: 1) to replace a pagan holiday with a Christian holiday, and 2) to bring St. Valentine, who was executed for heresy, into the establishment to undermine his teachings. St. Valentine's own love life ended in tragedy (he was in love with his jailor's daughter), and I think that was supposed to serve as a warning to anyone who would put love above duty. Valentine's Day was about power and politics, not about love.

The reason why romance is now the essence of Valentine's Day is because our cultural evolution has brought us to the point where we always expect love to be part of our relationships. To some people, that's kind of childish and bizarre. Such a notion was incomprehensible a few centuries ago (and it is still incomprehensible in many parts of the world). So don't feel bad just because you don't have a date on Valentine's Day. If you're going to follow convention, then you ought to feel bad for not having a date on any day of the year. Maybe you should avoid following convention.