What do you look for?

Garcia · Post by **Garcia** » Wed Aug 08, 2001 4:01 am

don't really get all that Michiru-mama and Haruka-papa thing but anyway sleep tight.

Vehemence · Post by **Vehemence** » Wed Aug 08, 2001 5:15 am

Originally posted by Garcia:
don't really get all that Michiru-mama and Haruka-papa thing but anyway sleep tight.

Me either, must be a chick thing

Weasel · Post by **Weasel** » Wed Aug 08, 2001 8:06 am

Originally posted by Vehemence:
Me either, must be a chick thing

[url="http://home.nexgo.de/gifs24/gifs/sailermoon/sailermoon015.gif"]The Leader[/url]

[url="http://home.nexgo.de/gifs24/gifs/sailermoon/sailermoon009.gif"]Never before seen photos[/url]

ThorinOakensfield · Post by **ThorinOakensfield** » Wed Aug 08, 2001 8:13 am

Originally posted by Weasel:
[Q] [url="http://home.nexgo.de/gifs24/gifs/sailermoon/sailermoon009.gif"]Never before seen photos[/url][/QB]

I thought her clothes would fall of aftre the little twirl.

Aegis · Post by **Aegis** » Wed Aug 08, 2001 8:31 am

@Thorin: Aww.. Geez man! First off shes a cartoon! Second... Well... I guess we can't get our minds out of the gutter...

Sailor Saturn · Post by **Sailor Saturn** » Wed Aug 08, 2001 10:51 am

Originally posted by Garcia:
don't really get all that Michiru-mama and Haruka-papa thing but anyway sleep tight.

Haruka-papa and Michiru-mama are my parents. They adopted me when I was little, so I call them Haruka-papa and Michiru-mama.

Originally posted by Vehemence:
Me either, must be a chick thing

I guess you could call it a 'chick thing' actually, since they're both women.

But I wouldn't recommend saying that to them, you might get hit over the head with a violin or run over by a motorcycle.

Song listened to while typing this post: Aoi Hitomi from Escaflowne

[ 08-08-2001: Message edited by: Sailor Saturn ]

Vehemence · Post by **Vehemence** » Wed Aug 08, 2001 8:22 pm

Originally posted by Sailor Saturn:
 I guess you could call it a 'chick thing' actually, since they're both women. But I wouldn't recommend saying that to them, you might get hit over the head with a violin or run over by a motorcycle.

Song listened to while typing this post: Aoi Hitomi from Escaflowne

Actually, I've been hit over the head with a violin once before. Didn't like it so I'll stick with the not saying "it's a chick thing" to your parents

Big on the whole anime thing I see... Escaflowne isn't bad, I prefer Cowboy Bepop though.

average joe · Post by **average joe** » Wed Aug 08, 2001 8:35 pm

Originally posted by Astafas:
Also, have you noticed how looks get less important when you know someone? It can even get hard to describe that person to someone else, since the mental picture you have consists more of feelings and memories than of physical attributes.

Very much so. I once fell for this young lady...met her over the net, talked a bunch, started talkin on the phone, eventually got to hang with her in person...ya know, the typical long distance meet over the net thing. Anyways, after knowing her so long without even seeing her in person, i couldn't describe her to any of my friends. I actually thought maybe most wouldn't consider her all that attractive, but too me she was so beautiful. Of course, some of my friends met her and thought she was a hottie. So i know what you mean.

Originally posted by Vivien
[QB]Georgi: You're right you know. Women do not look at men as much. Why is that? Are women more attractive?[/QB}

Duh, i mean being a guy prolly gives my opinion bias, but the female body is definitely a thing of beauty. Especially when you compare it to the male body!

Sorry to jump in on this topic 8 years after it started, but after reading through it i earned my right to post.

C Elegans · Post by **C Elegans** » Sat Aug 11, 2001 8:04 am

Originally posted by Vivien:
Okay, so who was it that mentioned looking women up and down as if they are a piece of meat?!

I have one thing to say to that person.
YES WOMEN KNOW WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING AT. We can see your eyes go up and down. We see them pause at certain areas. We don’t ‘know’ what you’re thinking, but we can guess. We're thinking thoughts right back at you, usually violent thoughts, but not always.

This might sound strange, but I actually don't mind strangers looking at me as if I were a piece of meat, since I regard myself as being a among other things[b/], also a piece of meat. (I think of Björk's "Bachelorette", the first line is "I'm a fountain of blood/in the shape of a girl").

I view every person including myself, as having physical attributes as well as emotional, intellectual and personality attritbutes. To a person who does not know me and has never spoken to me, I am of course merely my looks, since he knows nothing else. So I don't find it more degrading to be seen as merely a sexual, physical woman-shaped piece of tissue, than to be seen as an abstract, intellectual production unit only. I want all people I learn to know to consider all the different modalities in me, that a human being consists of

I look at men, maybe not the "elevator-style" gaze Garcia describes, but I certainly look at their face, body, posture, coordination, movement style etc. My lady friends describe similar behaviour patterns, you automathically evalute a man's attractiveness both sexually/physically and personality-wise.

Of course there are people around who reduce others to merely sex objects, but is it any better to be reduced to an income provider or a status measurement? I think men and women at group level reduce each other equally much, the channels/expression just differ depending on gender roles in the specific time and culture.

Vehemence · Post by **Vehemence** » Sat Aug 11, 2001 8:11 am

I love how you think CE

Couldn't agree more with how you put it

C Elegans · Post by **C Elegans** » Sat Aug 11, 2001 8:22 am

Heh, I'm glad someone loves the way I think

Vehemence · Post by **Vehemence** » Sat Aug 11, 2001 8:33 am

Originally posted by C Elegans:
Heh, I'm glad someone loves the way I think

I'm sure there's a cue of thousands out there that love the way you think

I'm just one of the lucky few who get's to tell you

Mr Sleep · Post by **Mr Sleep** » Sat Aug 11, 2001 9:23 am

I must admit that i agree with much of what CE says (and i am not just sucking up like Veh

) a person is always judged on appearence unless you have talked to that person before meeting them

and even then ther ewouls still be a degree of analysis involved.

Gwalchmai · Post by **Gwalchmai** » Sat Aug 11, 2001 3:47 pm

I, also, agree with CE (and I'm probably sucking up to boot

, just like brother Vehemence), but her outlook is in the minority, and the majority of women will be insulted by the elevator look. It is difficult to tell by looking (conundrum there!) whether a woman will appreciate a too-long gaze or not.

[ 08-11-2001: Message edited by: Gwalchmai ]

leedogg · Post by **leedogg** » Sat Aug 11, 2001 4:11 pm

I look for a very patient person (I am NOT the easiest person to get along with)

, that doesn't smoke, with a nice body, good teeth(NOTHING is worse than a gnarled up grille

), long hair, and lots of inheritance.

dragon wench · Post by **dragon wench** » Sat Aug 11, 2001 4:11 pm

@Gwally,
I think that it depends on the nature of the gaze rather than the length. To be eyed appreciatively or flirtatiously is flattering, to be ogled is not. It's difficult to know where that dividing line is though, and I would guess that it varies according to the individual.
Which, of course, makes things very difficult for would be gazers.

Another problem is that some men are hypocrites, they enjoy staring at women, but they become disconcerted or even angry if the look is returned in equal measure.

leedogg · Post by **leedogg** » Sat Aug 11, 2001 4:16 pm

Originally posted by dragon wench:
Another problem is that some men are hypocrites, they enjoy staring at women, but they become disconcerted or even angry if the look is returned in equal measure.

You mean some guys get mad when a woman stares back? FOOLS!!!!

thantor3 · Post by **thantor3** » Sat Aug 11, 2001 4:52 pm

Men and women do not tend to look at each other in a vacuum. I think if one is respectful yet curious at first, they can get a sense of whether the energy is there so that gazing may be appropriate.

BTW, I found what CE had to say intelligent, intriguing and enlightening.

Aegis · Post by **Aegis** » Sat Aug 11, 2001 5:24 pm

@C E: A scientist, and a Philosper! You just keep amazing me. You are also the first woman I have ever heard (Read?) those words from before. But, how would you define someone that is staring at you as a sex object, as opposed to the decent guys, who are thinking of more than sex? I mean, that could be considered a very fine line. If I were to look at a woman, and say something like "I'd love get into bed with her" That does't necessarly mean I just want sex from her. It shows it's a big a part of it, but not the full part.

At the same time, someone could say some crap like, "I think your beuatiful" and it's all just a line. That person may just want the sex, not anything. If telling what a person thinks is that cryptic, and fine when you hear the words, tell me how you would tell when a guy checks you out?

Vehemence · Post by **Vehemence** » Sun Aug 12, 2001 6:53 am

Originally posted by leedogg:
You mean some guys get mad when a woman stares back? FOOLS!!!!

I agree, hell, you can check me out all you like!