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Dottie · Post by **Dottie** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:06 pm

Originally posted by C Elegans

These are my orders. I don't think you will suffer much...

Guess DW have herself a new stalker then.

Georgi · Post by **Georgi** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:07 pm

@CE yeah, I need deadlines or I would never get anything done... I hate to think what would happen if I did an MA

You don't have exams though... (7 hours until my first one...

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dragon wench · Post by **dragon wench** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:10 pm

@C.E lol!

perhaps there is therapy out there for those of us drifting around in post graduate land!

*eek* worriedly sings the Police song Every Breath You Take as she looks over her shoulder .......

dragon wench · Post by **dragon wench** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:11 pm

@Georgi, good luck with the exam!

Dottie · Post by **Dottie** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:15 pm

Originally posted by dragon wench
*eek* worriedly sings the Police song Every Breath You Take as she looks over her shoulder .......

You've got the idea. I can assure you though, that despite apearance im actually quite harmless.

dragon wench · Post by **dragon wench** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:18 pm

Originally posted by Dottie

You've got the idea. I can assure you though, that despite apearance im actually quite harmless.

*breathes a sigh of relief* For a moment I was worried !

Actually, I do think that asking somebody how they are doing can be quite a loaded question, I tend to be quite cautious in answering that one usually.....

C Elegans · Post by **C Elegans** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:21 pm

@Dot: LOL

@Georgi: I feel we are kindred spirits in our academic lives...I have six hours until the conference I'm going to starts

And I would probably still be writing on my Masters if it hadn't be required for the psychologist exam, and the exam was required for a job I had already signed, and the job was at the university hospital where my research lab is, so it was my only possibility to continue some research while doing my internship (required to get the licence)

Good luck with the exam!

Originally posted by dragon wench
@C.E lol!
perhaps there is therapy out there for those of us drifting around in post graduate land!

I am a bloody therapist!

PS, be nice to you stalker Dottie, he has much to learn from a sophisticated and experienced lady such as yourself

He is also rather cute.

Georgi · Post by **Georgi** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:22 pm

Originally posted by Dottie
You've got the idea. I can assure you though, that despite apearance im actually quite harmless.

@DW it's the quiet ones you have to worry about, you know

And thanks, BTW... On the optimistic side, it's only... 15 hours until I finish all my exams

I tend to be quite cautious in answering that one usually.....

You mean like, when a guy comes up to you and say "How you doin'?"

Georgi · Post by **Georgi** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:26 pm

Originally posted by C Elegans
I am a bloody therapist!

LOL

Could you give yourself therapy?

C Elegans · Post by **C Elegans** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:27 pm

@Dottie: I notice you have changed your sig - I think it's quite an improvement to adjust it so it related to DW rather than to Foul!

posted by Georgi:
And thanks, BTW... On the optimistic side, it's only... 15 hours until I finish all my exams

That's the spirit!

dragon wench · Post by **dragon wench** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:29 pm

by C.E

I am a bloody therapist!

lol! does that make your life better or worse?

Hmmmm....contemplates being nice....a novel concept!

by Georgi

@DW it's the quiet ones you have to worry about, you know

I've heard that

by Dottie

You mean like, when a guy comes up to you and say "How you doin'?"

Precisely!

My answers tend to vary according to my mood!

Oh...and the person asking the question....

Dottie · Post by **Dottie** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:33 pm

Originally posted by dragon wench
Actually, I do think that asking somebody how they are doing can be quite a loaded question, I tend to be quite cautious in answering that one usually.....

The reason for my antipathy against that question comes from that I rarely see it asked honestly, And I really loath social rituals like that.

Its abit like undeserved praise wich alot of people seem to love handing out. It takes away from the times were you actually do want to praise someone, or do want to know how a person is feeling.

@CE: I figured Georgi should be able to admitt defeat by now.

dragon wench · Post by **dragon wench** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:33 pm

Originally posted by C Elegans
@Dottie: I notice you have changed your sig - I think it's quite an improvement to adjust it so it related to DW rather than to Foul!

LMAO.... most gratifying!

C Elegans · Post by **C Elegans** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:34 pm

posted by DW
lol! does that make your life better or worse?

ROFL

In this case worse, since I know all the strategies I should use, so I have nothing to blame - I am forced to view it as a choice of my own will

Originally posted by Georgi

LOL Could you give yourself therapy?

I actually could, although it's less efficient than somebody else doing it. Seriously, have a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist education, and this type of therapy is less based on discussion and more focused on strategies, so it works well to apply it to oneself. However, I have tried - I think the result is not necessary to comment *cough*

dragon wench · Post by **dragon wench** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:39 pm

Originally posted by Dottie

The reason for my antipathy against that question comes from that I rarely see it asked honestly, And I really loath social rituals like that.

Its abit like undeserved praise wich alot of people seem to love handing out. It takes away from the times were you actually do want to praise someone, or do want to know how a person is feeling.

I totally agree.... Once a complete stranger asked me....and being in a rather...ahem...foul.... mood.... I decided to concoct an advice-column style sob story.....

The individual backed away really quickly..... Admittedly, I was being somewhat evil in doing that...but it does demonstrate the insincerity so often behind the question.......

I feel much the same way about things like mother's day....all too often marking the occasion seems to be expected rather than anything that is truly genuine.... IMO...why not do something nice for somebody spontaneously through the year....rather than observing a particular day just because your society advocates doing so.....

Georgi · Post by **Georgi** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:40 pm

Originally posted by dragon wench
My answers tend to vary according to my mood! Oh...and the person asking the question....

I agree...

BTW, I'm not Dottie

Or am I...?

@CE so what you're saying is you need therapy?

@Dottie ok, ok, I give up, you almost piqued Foul's interest, but not quite

Maybe sometime I will change you from a puffin to something more suitable for lurking in the shadows

C Elegans · Post by **C Elegans** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:42 pm

Originally posted by Dottie

The reason for my antipathy against that question comes from that I rarely see it asked honestly, And I really loath social rituals like that.

Its abit like undeserved praise wich alot of people seem to love handing out. It takes away from the times were you actually do want to praise someone, or do want to know how a person is feeling.

I know what you mean Dottus, and I actually agree with you. I just pester you for the fun of it

and because I do honestly wish to know how people are doing when I ask.

Same thing with praise and affection. For instance, I never praise my students if they haven't done remarkable achivements, and I don't give compliments unless I really mean them.

@CE: I figured Georgi should be able to admitt defeat by now.

? Not sure what you are referring to here?

Georgi · Post by **Georgi** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:42 pm

Originally posted by dragon wench
why not do something nice for somebody spontaneously through the year....rather than observing a particular day just because your society advocates doing so.....

Like Valentines Day

I actually never ask strangers how they are, I only ever ask when I'm talking to friends and I do actually want to know how they are...

dragon wench · Post by **dragon wench** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:46 pm

Originally posted by Georgi

Like Valentines Day I actually never ask strangers how they are, I only ever ask when I'm talking to friends and I do actually want to know how they are...

Yes, that too.... If somebody I care about gives me a card I appreciate it and respond in kind, but it is never something I've ever expected.

Yes...same here....glad to know there are others who feel that way about the "how are you doing" question.... I have occasionally wondered if I am abnormal..... Actually I probably am anyway!

Dottie · Post by **Dottie** » Sun May 26, 2002 7:50 pm

There are unfortunatly other concerns with the "how are you" question thats buildt more on my social inability then reasoning about honesty. Thats why im giving you trouble CE, but im sure you've figured that by now.

About the sig I made a claim that Foul wasnt as dangerous as he looked and wouldnt bother anyone who didnt provoke him, even if that one was a puffin. G forced me to prove it.