The beautiful and the ugly

Mr Sleep · Post by **Mr Sleep** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 4:42 pm

Originally posted by T'lainya:
Sleepy...Why doesn't that surprise me?

I don't know, are you psychic?

Gwalchmai · Post by **Gwalchmai** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 4:46 pm

Originally posted by T'lainya:
Why thank you Gwally Even if I was an afterthought

That wasn't an afterthought - that was a pre-emptive strike!

DP: Only 20 cases? Aren't you bringing any for me and T'?

CE: Better a compliment than an insult, no matter the source or intent. IMO

Darkpoet · Post by **Darkpoet** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 4:48 pm

Originally posted by T'lainya:
Sleepy...Why doesn't that surprise me?

Dp..The only thing you want is a pint of Guinness

*Hugging T'lainya* A woman, who understands me.

*sniff* Where have you been all my life?

Probably, hiding from me.

Mr Sleep · Post by **Mr Sleep** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 4:50 pm

Originally posted by Darkpoet:

*Hugging T'lainya* A woman, who understands me. *sniff* Where have you been all my life? Probably, hiding from me.

ROFLMAO

C Elegans · Post by **C Elegans** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 4:51 pm

@mr Sleep: I hope you insurance will cover refurnishing (sp?) your home

Originally posted by Gwalchmai:
CE: Better a compliment than an insult, no matter the source or intent. IMO

Hm, I'm not sure I agree

A compliment might be even less well intended than an insult. Compliments can be very manipulative, and that is one of the most ugly things I know in moral terms...

Mr Sleep · Post by **Mr Sleep** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 4:54 pm

Originally posted by C Elegans:
@mr Sleep: I hope you insurance will cover refurnishing (sp?) your home

You would be looking for 'refurbishment of'

Night all i do have work tomorrow after all

Darkpoet · Post by **Darkpoet** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 4:55 pm

Originally posted by C Elegans:
@mr Sleep: I hope you insurance will cover refurnishing (sp?) your home

Hm, I'm not sure I agree A compliment might be even less well intended than an insult. Compliments can be very manipulative, and that is one of the most ugly things I know in moral terms...

If you ask, how do I look in these pants? Do you want the truth or no dear you look lovely?

Either way it's a loaded question.

T'lainya · Post by **T'lainya** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 4:57 pm

ROFL
@ Sleep

just a guess

@ Gwally Ok you're forgiven then

@ Dp Not hiding exactly..

err you're crying all over my shirt

Darkpoet · Post by **Darkpoet** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 5:04 pm

Originally posted by T'lainya:
ROFL
@ Sleep just a guess
@ Gwally Ok you're forgiven then
@ Dp Not hiding exactly.. err you're crying all over my shirt

Er.. sorry

C Elegans · Post by **C Elegans** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 5:06 pm

@Sleep: Good night, and thank you for being my language consultant

Originally posted by Darkpoet:

If you ask, how do I look in these pants? Do you want the truth or no dear you look lovely?

Either way it's a loaded question.

To me, it's not a loaded question at all. If I ask "How do I look in these pants", I ask because I want to know how I look in the pants, nothing else. What if I look horrible and the husband/friend/whoever doesn't tell me? Not very funny to walk around and believe you look stunning if you look ghastly. :

Am I making sense?

T'lainya · Post by **T'lainya** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 5:10 pm

You're making perfect sense CE

@ Dp

oops G'night Sleepy

Darkpoet · Post by **Darkpoet** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 5:13 pm

Yes, it does CE. You and T, are the first women, I know of that don't use loaded questions. So, if I answer truthfully, I won't get "Well, thanks alot." .

Darkpoet · Post by **Darkpoet** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 5:15 pm

Night Sleep.

T'lainya · Post by **T'lainya** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 5:22 pm

Well I never saw the sense in asking if you don't want to hear the answer.

It's like being asked why you're angry and saying "You know why I'm mad" A lot of times the other person doesn't know. It's easier just to say why in the first place.

Darkpoet · Post by **Darkpoet** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 5:24 pm

Originally posted by T'lainya:
Well I never saw the sense in asking if you don't want to hear the answer.
It's like being asked why you're angry and saying "You know why I'm mad" A lot of times the other person doesn't know. It's easier just to say why in the first place.

Or you get "Because" That's my favorite, not.

C Elegans · Post by **C Elegans** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 5:32 pm

Originally posted by Darkpoet:
Yes, it does CE. You and T, are the first women, I know of that don't use loaded questions. So, if I answer truthfully, I won't get "Well, thanks alot." .

So, my impression of you T', as a no-BS lady, was correct

DP, I actually think this is a bit depressing to hear this is unusual. Personally, I'm all against the mind-reading kind of demands on other people, partner or friends. There's always a risk of creating a certain falsehood and distance when people prefer hearing what is pleasant to what is true.

[ 07-26-2001: Message edited by: C Elegans ]

T'lainya · Post by **T'lainya** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 5:39 pm

CE

I prefer to tell the truth, I try to be tactful, but I don't like to lie

It's more healthy for any relationship IMO to be honest

Darkpoet · Post by **Darkpoet** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 5:50 pm

*bowing*

Finally, so I'm not doing anything wrong then, telling it straight out.

[ 07-26-2001: Message edited by: Darkpoet ]

Minerva · Post by **Minerva** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 5:59 pm

Originally posted by Darkpoet:
*bowing*

Finally, so I'm not doing anything wrong then, telling it straight out.

[ 07-26-2001: Message edited by: Darkpoet ]

That depends on whom and what occasion you are talking.

T'lainya · Post by **T'lainya** » Thu Jul 26, 2001 6:00 pm

As long as you remeber there's a difference between those pants aren't very flattering and those pants make your butt look like a water buffalo's