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Agreed. Now someone fetch my ballgag!

OMG! i can't believe i'm hearing this..this.. debauchery

tell me more sorry i've been away but i've spread the word in my absense

[QUOTE=jopperm2]Agreed. Now someone fetch my ballgag! [/QUOTE]

Ha, oh I don't bother with those, loud is fun.

[QUOTE=Locke Da'averan]OMG! i can't believe i'm hearing this..this.. debauchery

tell me more sorry i've been away but i've spread the word in my absense[/QUOTE]

You can't believe it in a thread I created? You must have drank too much this weekend and pickled your brain.

Sorry man, happens to the best of us.

[QUOTE=Magrus]
You can't believe it in a thread I created? [/QUOTE]

i was being sarcastic

Me too!

My kimmy's mother died at 9 this morning. So no baby this week to watch, and she's just miserable. I need to find a way to cheer to poor girl up.

[QUOTE=Magrus]Me too!

My kimmy's mother died at 9 this morning. So no baby this week to watch, and she's just miserable. I need to find a way to cheer to poor girl up.[/QUOTE]

well you should've used a instead of then

i'm sorry to hear that i hope she didn't have to suffer... cheering her up might be a tall order but i hope you succeed..

Yeah, given how she died, everyone's been very, very upset all weekend. It won't be easy but I tend to make her feel better when I'm around so hopefully I can cheer her up some. That, or take her out and get her very very drunk. But..the last time that happened...baby...sooo she don't drink much anymore.

[QUOTE=Magrus]Yeah, given how she died, everyone's been very, very upset all weekend. It won't be easy but I tend to make her feel better when I'm around so hopefully I can cheer her up some. That, or take her out and get her very very drunk. But..the last time that happened...baby...sooo she don't drink much anymore. [/QUOTE]

i can understand the drinking part.. getting her drunk may get her to tell about her feeling/reactions on this... if she usually doesn't do so

I'd really just be happy if I could get her out of the house to take her mind off of it and help her take care of her daughter so she doesn't have to. Chances are I'd be forced to actually drag her out though to make her leave.

Oh well, I wonder if this means I need to buy a suit...I hate suits.

Sorry to hear about her monther. I lost my dad a few years ago and it's really tough.

She's known it was coming, I met her when she was 13, and she was already playing mother at that age. Her mom had a degenerative brain disease, the past year or so, she only recognized her husband half the time, everyone else she couldn't remember. So, it was hard on everyone, they wanted to talk to her and everything, but she had no clue who they were at the end.

Sorry to hear that Magrus...

I lost my mother to breast cancer a number of years back, like your friend I knew it was coming.. I'm not sure if the knowing is worse or better than the instances where somebody dies suddenly in an accident or something.

Regarding what to do in helping your friend. My suggestion, just be there for her, and pretty much go with whatever mood she is in at the time. From my own experience, I know this can really vacillilate.
Though... yeah... a good bout of drinking or something similar can't hurt in the initial stage, just as long as it doesn't become a substitute for processing the grief and everything else involved.

Thanks, I'll keep that in mind. I've never been affected by death the same as most everyone else. I've a very different understanding and acceptance of it and I'm not good with people who end up all sorts of upset with it for days on end. I've only dealt with one death where I was truly, terribly upset by it, everyone else, they were in a bad place with their health and I can't say them living would have been a good thing given those states were more or less permanent for them.

Well, I can at least offer whatever she wants to cheer her up. Maybe I could bake her brownies or something.

It's hard to say if knowing is better or worse. I lost my cousin(who was like a brother to me, we even lived together) and my best friend, both in seperate car accidents. I think that was harder.

But then I think about when my dad was dying and I went up to visit him. I had to come back to florida and his condition was bad. I knew that when I said goodbye to him that day that it was for real and forever. It's a terrible thing to experience.

Sorry to hear about her loss. I lost an old friend of mine, Rachel, She died in some kind of huge wreck, she was put in a coma and she died like 4 months into it, I was with her in the hospital until a Nurse would kick me out or something. I was there when she died I was holding her hand and the docs said that she might makle it out alive, then she just died.

Well, I'm sorry to hear about all of your losses too.

I've dealt with people I know dying, quite a few from blatant stupidity and completely the fault of ridiculous decisions, but those close to me, they were all sick with terminal diseases or just very, very old. My ex is the only one I was close to who really shouldn't have died. That one really got to me, the others I saw as a release from what they had to endure, that's how I'm looking at my friends mother passing on. I don't think they're looking at it like that though, or at least won't be for some time.

I didn't get to spend the day with the family like I wanted to. I don't drive and I live like 40 minutes away from their home in the opposite direction of the nursing home she had been in. My friend didn't want to take that hour and a half away from her mother to get me so I could stay by her side through it. Luckily some of her other friends were able to go though.

They'll more than likely move on into that frame of thinking, it just takes some time for most people.

[QUOTE=Magrus]Thanks, I'll keep that in mind. I've never been affected by death the same as most everyone else. I've a very different understanding and acceptance of it and I'm not good with people who end up all sorts of upset with it for days on end. [/QUOTE]
I'd like to hear your opinion about this, if you're willing to share it.