Jenifer, what meaning of the term you mind?
If you're speaking about people so busy with showing how happy they are because their only care is to convince themselves about it in first order, you're quite right. IMO, really happy person never cares, it is our most natural condition of human being, after all

Children are the most happy people, aren't they?
And, IMHO, there are peoples having happy moments and people having happy life, it's not the same and even not the supersets of each other.
Well, it is very wide theme and might appear serious, let's go for games.
I must admit i've never finished Torment, it's fatality and gloom was going to make me nervous if not depress me. I admit, the storyline was framed very well, but there was too few decisions left on me save but plain technical ones (in terms of RPG). I felt also i hadn't enough space for roleplaying, it was already predefined more or less, but the world feeling was definitely not for me. It appears too gothic for me. Nonetheless, and it was strange, i might imagine the feelings of Nameless One quite well. It might be as well i guessed some danger in the game. It is not the great secret the roles we're playing eventually tend to play us as well, the tail begins to wriggle the dog

. If you've known actors on occasion you might know.
BG is better, there is space enough, though i'd like even more. Nonetheless there are some flaws altogether. For one thing, if we're speaking about interactions and, naturally, about romances, i do not feel completely content. Well, they are new factor in BG series (being nearly at the end

), and you think twice before dismiss Jaheira form party with male protagonist, nonetheless i suspect the development team had not a smallest idea about what might follow the first kiss, oh, well, the first night

Save Bodhi episode, of course, ending with, all the same, "thank you", "don't mind", "let's go"...
Though, for it is somehow my playground, too, i understand the difficulties and appreciate the work invested, as a player i'd like more. Maybe i should more often change party members to experience more, though leaving old comrades is not my style.
I do not know about Anomen, have never played my favorite female paladin from BG1 in BG2 still, but i guess this romance is not better in any aspect as Jaheira's.

BTW, have you noted that if you keep the spirit of RPG close you may get Anomen in the party only if you're good aligned? Say, druid protagonist might never get Anomen to join because (s)he should never respond positively to Anomen's second question, don't mention the evil parties.
Altogether is see some discrimination of women in the game. One romance in first order. If not for Jaheira's part, i'd begin to guess the developers have had no inkling about woman's nature
BTW, dear Ladies, how do you find Jaheira from the viewpoint of femininity? Is she believable and the way her thoughts are going acceptable or, at least, apprehensible to you?
TIA,
L.