I must have interpreted things a little differently from the rest of you.
First of all, Ravel is truly dead when the Nameless One's Mortality kills her. Ei-Vene and Marta disappear, and Old Mebbeth is dying if you go to see her. As Mebbeth explains, the threads of Ravel's multi-layered existence are unraveling, and she doesn't have much time.
If you ask Mebbeth how it's possible that she doesn't know who she really is, she says, "How is it *ye* do not know yerself?" Mebbeth licks her lips. "Many things... even bits of the self... they fall through memory's cracks, shadows of things forgotten, these memory thing-pieces, maybe bad... maybe good... Here, in this place, all I did was the mendin' of things and bodies, settin' bones, deliverin' babes... In all these things, I was content." She sighs. "As for being that *other,* that Ravel..." She licks her lips again. "I think... ye take for granted what a comfort it would be, oft times, to misplace a memory or two..."
As she's dying, she says, "Little time remains... the threads, these Ravels... they are unraveling as we speak... My end... it's traveling from all of time's directions, all of Ravel's threads are unraveling..."
Mebbeth is like a splinter of Ravel's personality, yet she is distinct from "Ravel", much as the Nameless One's incarnations are distinct from one another.
Mebbeth isn't really "Ravel" if we take Mebbeth at her word. But in the end, Ravel comes to the surface (just as all of the Nameless One's incarnations come to the surface and merge in the end, which is literally the end of his life). Mebbeth has always been kind and helpful. But speaking through Mebbeth, Ravel says that *she* herself has performed only a few acts of kindness: 1) trying to release the Lady of Pain from the cage known as Sigil, 2) extending the Nameless One's life, and 3) something she has done (or wanted to do) for her daughter, Kesai, but which she doesn't explain. She goes on to say, "There is a saying on the Planes... that a hag's kindness is crueler... than her hate, and poisons all it touches..." Mebbeth never hurt anybody, but Ravel's *three* acts of kindness have hurt, or would have hurt, lots of people. (Opening Sigil to everything and everyone, causing others to die in the Nameless One's place, and injuring her own daughter first through the ignorance of who she was and then the knowledge of it.) If you ask Mebbeth/Ravel if she's in pain, she nods and says, "Yes... yet it is the irony which hurts the most..." She gives a sickly smile. "An act of kindness, thrice repaid... it is the way of the Planes that my few acts of kindness should be the death of me." She laughs softly. "Yet I have no regrets..."
There's a dialogue option that lets you say, "I mourn Mebbeth's passing, but not [Ravel's]." This means that it's possible for you to care for Mebbeth even if you don't care for Ravel. That doesn't sound illogical or unreasonable to me. Since Ravel herself has distinct incarnations, that's one of the reasons why I wondered if Ravel loved the Nameless One's *CURRENT* incarnation just as much as she loved his orginal incarnation. Does she love the Paranoid Incarnation and the Practical Incarnation just as much? Ravel also indicates that she loves the Nameless One's Mortality. When you ask her to give the Nameless One's mortality back to him (without realizing that his Mortality is actually a separate creature now with a will of its own), Ravel says, "Ravel *cannot* give such a thing to you, my precious man, for Ravel has *nothing* to give... I never possessed *you* or your mortality... though I wished to keep them both in my garden as selfish affection's keepsakes, trace the patterns of your flesh... but such things Ravel could not bring herself to do..." That's when it becomes clear that Ravel loves the Nameless One...and his Mortality, as well.
I didn't understand what was going on when Ravel got into a fight with the Nameless One's Mortality and got killed, but I thought perhaps that she was in league with him somehow. I didn't realize that he had come to kill her. Maybe it was just barminess on her part, but if she had wanted him to think that she was dead, she shouldn't have said, "Away with you! I'm dead now." And I still don't understand what she meant by "the requirements set down long ago." I thought that maybe she had made some kind of pact with him. When she said, "This incarnation is very strong," that meant that she recognized their individuality. It also seemed a bit condescending to me, and it made me wonder what she really thought of him. In any case, I didn't think that we should trust everything that Ravel said. She's a tricky one, you know.
I did think that some of the things she said were insightful, though. For example, when she explains why the Nameless One is "broken", she says, "My pretty, pretty thing, there is much wisdom and understanding in the truth that life is a preparation for the ultimate goal: death. Our life is a means by which we learn *how* to die. If we FORGET such things... Without the mortality to hold such memories tight, the body is a shell..."
And of course, all the talk about love changing Ravel's black-brambled heart is very touching. Only a very strong kind of love could do something like that. But I still think it's appropriate to ask, *who* does she love?
When it comes to Ravel's alignment, I don't think it makes any difference what her character file says it is. You're not supposed to see it in the first place, and that sort of thing isn't reliable, anyway. In BG2, Jon Irenicus's character record says that he's Chaotic Good (as if), Drizzt wears his scimitar on his head (I guess he wields it with his teeth), and chickens are 1st Level Mages, among other silly things. I really don't think we should take all of that at face value.
There's one other thing. Deionnara said, "You shall meet enemies three, but none more dangerous than yourself in your full glory. They are shades of evil, of good, and of neutrality given life and twisted by the laws of the planes." I thought that she was referring to the Good Incarnation, the Practical Incarnation, and the Paranoid Incarnation. (I geared up for a big fight that never came.)
If Ravel was one of them (the Neutral one), then who are the other two?