Multiplayer - ALMOST got it, but one more question

[Greywolf]

Hi guys - I posted earlier in the week about getting a multiplayer game up and running. My friend finally got one up on Gamespy (neither of us had gotten that far before) and me and my wife through our ISDN router were able to join in his chat room. But this is where it all stopped. He launched the game and it worked on his end but my wife and I were terminated from the session after about 30 seconds.

My querstions are as follows:

1 - Does he need to start the game, create/import his character, click on the checkbox for him being the main, and THEN we join the game? Perhaps while we were trying to "join" his game and he was creating/importing his character we somehow timed out?

2 - Should we wait till he gets what he needs to get done (whatever that is) before even trying to join his Gamespy room at all? Like wait until he is done with the character stuff and then join Gamespy room - I assume then he'll see us trying to join in BG2 and be able to allow us in.

Thanks for any help you can provide, guys