Not sure if anyone else had this but, you know in Druegar outpost there is a torture room with the Spectre. Now is there a way to actually talk him out of attacking you? I seemed to never be able to do so?
Have your cleric or paladin turn him first, then he'll talk. You can convince him that the Duregar are responsible for his state and he runs off to attack them.
Good things come to those that wait--but only what's left over from those that hustle.
