For the most part, doing what it is the girls I've been involved with has never gone against what I want to do in the first place and so long as I kept them happy, I got what I wanted. THAT was a balance. You forget the give and take involved, and your never given anything.
Whipped? Not at all, common sense. A happy partner is more open to what you want.
Real men? Laundry is done a scent scale, when your dog avoids you, its time to wash your clothes and theres no need for a side dish in meals, you grill your cow whole and leave it on the coffee table in front of the table and tear hunks off as you watch football.