I can hardly call a police statement anecdotal, but you are certainly entitled to your opinion.The best way is to present logical facts instead of anecdotal statements and opinions as facts.
I agree. Completely. The key word is IF.I could say that lack of change within the law to reflect the change of society makes many people insecure about said laws, and wonder their legibility. If many feel a law is outdated, and then upholding said law dwindles - and it ends up being changed.
What facts, in your opinion, would qualify as logical? What evidence would you find sufficient? Please explain. So far it is your opinion against a police statement.Not once have we been presented other then with some subjective opinions (which hardly count as logical facts) that increased "abuse" will happen if polygamy marriage was legalized.
The abuse is rampant in Mormon polygamous marriage as described by the insiders and the police. Legalizing polygamy first of all will legalize the existing Mormon Fundamentalists' marriages (and they are the main proponents of the legalization) and prevent any prosecution unless a victim comes forward which is unlikely due to the oppressive nature of these marriages and the overwhelming influence of the Mormons in Utah. The polygamy was officially condemned in Utah and the law was repeatedly upheld for the last 150 years in spite of the multiple complains from the polygamists who demanded legalization of polygamy as their religious right. The law does not protect a religious right if it harms children. At the same time the officials assumed a 'don't ask, don't tell' attitude, mostly due to the above mentioned influence. It comes to the end though since more and more victims speak out. In such communities legalization of polygamy will not increase abuse; it will simply legalize it.Just once, how does legalizing polygamy marriage increase abuse, when the abuse is already existing and present? How is polygamy worse off then regular marriage when the same forms of abuse exists in regular?
As to the non-Mormon would-be polygamous marriages, I briefly outlined my position in the previous post. I have never mentioned any 'abuse' or 'increase in abuse' issues in polyamorous groups so please do not attribute this opinion to me. However, since we presume that abuse is omnipresent, it probably exists in these groups as well.
These groups are mostly unstable and often preoccupied with transcending 'jealousy and possessiveness'. It is not for everyone to enjoy the fact that your lover 'falls in love' with more and more partners who become members (however temporarily) of the group. To accept this you must be able to ‘transcend’ anxiety and start 'loving' all your partner's partners and those partners' partners. Or you are out. In the so-called open marriages legally married husband and wife openly enjoy multiple lovers that come and go. Fine too.
I am not, and I repeat, I am not against such unions. I am against callining them marriage.
And how would you legally marry and divorce several people every few months? Please do tell me. This is not a marriage. If everything is marriage, nothing is. I say again: leave these free spirits be. They like it as is.
I've already answered that.Abuse most likely exists within fundamentalist polygamous communities, but you have not yet shown that it would increase if polygamy marriages were legalized, or that it wouldn't happen anyway. You simply claim that because abuse happens - it must be connected to polygamous relationships. And that is flawed.
Please do, but there is no real need; you have already made this assumption yourself. And since I know of no incidents of child rape, incest and physical abuse that happened even once in my family, my husband's extensive family and my friends' families, I can safely answer that to claim these kinds of abuse are common in practically all monogamous families is more than exaggeration. At the same time, this is a common practice in the Mormon polygamous community and they don't view it as abuse.Would you like me to present one "account" from a person in former monogamist relationships who've been abused in some form and claim it is general for all types of monogamist relationships based on this persons experience? Because one would be quite easy to find.
OK, let us look at the latest Gallup poll:Yeah, it is a dumb argument to me, because you grasp an unidentified transparent group of society as argument. And that hardly carries much weight in a debate.
Americans on polygamy
"Testimony continues in a Utah courtroom on the issue of whether or not polygamist Warrant Jeffs should stand trial on charges of rape.
We've been tracking Americans' views on the moral acceptability of polygamy for a while now. Five percent of Americans believe that “polygamy, when one husband has more than one wife at the same time” is morally acceptable.
This presents an interesting case of interpretation. Certainly that’s a very low number from one perspective. In fact, polygamy is near the bottom of the list of a number of moral issues we test each year (only 4% of Americans say that married men and women having an affair is morally acceptable -- putting it at the very bottom).
At the same time, do 5% of Americans really think polygamy is morally acceptable? We spelled it out in some detail for respondents (as noted above) so it’s hard to believe that there was some misunderstanding about what polygamy really is. Without calling back the 5% who found it acceptable and quizzing them in more detail, we don’t know precisely what is behind their responses. But it appears that at least some Americans don't reject the idea."
You are twisting my position. Again. I have answered this accusation already.Or blaming polygamous marriage for abuse which happens anyway/elsewhere.
Responsibility ...that not everyone is ready to take. The marriage commitment should not be taken as easy as a sexual encounter in a swinging bar. (The accommodating divorce laws are abused as well).With the way marriages fail left and right (what is the divorce rate in the US?, and the Western Europe? .... high isn't it) I do not follow the "Marriage is a commitment and a lot of responsibility and patience".
And even if true, then commitment and responsibility and patience would also exists in polygamous marriages, or homosexual marriages for that matter, just as abuse exists in both forms.
Actually, we share the opinion that marriage is commitment.
I am quoting Xandax now:
Marriage to me is an institution of commitment which just incidentally carries a lot of benefits in many societies which makes marriage *not* and institution of religion, but of society and state.
No, they would not. No commitment, period.And even if true, then commitment and responsibility and patience would also exists in polygamous marriages