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@Moonbiter
Here we have people who claim to believe in magic, witchcraft, God(s), and whathavye, and yet they're stomping the notion of soulmates. Nice going.
Since I don't believe even in "whathavye" I feel qualified to indulge in stomping the notion of soulmates to my heart's content.
...when I got hit with a minor heart condition and ended up in the hospital. While I was there, the wifey calls on a satellite phone and asks if everything is all right, because she's had a bad feeling all day. We usually get in touch once each week, and this was completely out of sync. If that ain't "soulmates" then nothing is.
So, how does it actually work, in your opinion? Does your soul (or if you don't believe in souls, which part of your body -- heart? limbic system? a mysterious whathavye?) send special long-distance signals through the “Aether” that her soul receives? And vise versa? I am curious, no offense. :)
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It is funny, because for all this talk about "soulmates," I do not think I have ever actually witnessed something even remotely like it. True, I have seen a few couples that have seemed reasonably happy and quite a few ones that have lasted. But they have all had their moments of crisis, and it is clear that in those cases both parties have had incentives besides love to stay in that partnership.

Marriage was an invention of human culture; when we were still in our animal state, everyone had many partners during his lifetime. Look at other animals, they will go for anything within reach, even switching between the sexes. So in many ways it is probably very contrary to our natures to be tied to one another in these alliances, but it is also exactly such forms of bondage that make us civilized. But as with many other things pertaining to civilized society, it is not necessarily pleasurable, and so it is sometimes tempting to indulge in Romantic fantasies that help to gloss over more prosaic realities. Especially if one has too much time on one's hands. ;)
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Naffnuff wrote:Marriage was an invention of human culture; when we were still in our animal state, everyone had many partners during his lifetime. Look at other animals, they will go for anything within reach,
Not true. It differs from species to species, and frequently within each species between types. For example, the Emperor Penguin changes mates each year, while the so-called Little Penguin is (usually) fiercely faithful throughout life to its chosen mate.
...even switching between the sexes.
Not in most cases, no. At least, not outside Baptist and Pentacostal preachers. :angel:
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fable wrote: For example, the Emperor Penguin changes mates each year, while the so-called Little Penguin is (usually) fiercely faithful throughout life to its chosen mate.
Haven't you heard about German gay Penguins?

Ananova - Zoo tempts gay penguins to go straight

EDIT: Apparently, Swedish Penguins are straight
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Lady Dragonfly wrote:Haven't you heard about Swedish gay Penguins?

Ananova - Zoo tempts gay penguins to go straight
It sounds like a modern Swedish analog of what the Florentine gerentocracy tried by running a brothel, when their young men were becoming increasingly homosexual. Do you think there is any relationship between gay Florentine Renaissance noblemen, and modern Swedish penguins?

And no, I don't mean relationship in that sense of the word. Only one Swedish penguin has discovered its soulmate in a Florentine named Guido.
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Only one Swedish penguin has discovered its soulmate in a Florentine named Guido.


I don't want to know. :speech:
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Interesting perspectives, can't say as I agree with some of them but to each his own.
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Was this meant as sarcasm? Pretty sure I didn't mention anything about lust. (Sorry, internet is hard to tell sarcasm and seriousness apart without smileys, and I like many hate the use of smileys anyway.)
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Universal love (unconditional and granted to every being) is much more important than that granted to just one being. Soulmate is just a deep heart connection.
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Lady Dragonfly wrote:@Moonbiter


Since I don't believe even in "whathavye" I feel qualified to indulge in stomping the notion of soulmates to my heart's content.



So, how does it actually work, in your opinion? Does your soul (or if you don't believe in souls, which part of your body -- heart? limbic system? a mysterious whathavye?) send special long-distance signals through the “Aether” that her soul receives? And vise versa? I am curious, no offense. :)
None taken. I quite frankly don't know how it works. I'm not religious as such, but I must admit that life and experience has shown me numerous examples of that undefinable "something else" that I can't quite name. Call it "spirit," a "sixth sense" or "The Force" or something. Also I don't think a Soulmate needs to be someone you shack up with, it can be a friend or a sibling. Anyone you share an extreme emotional bond with. I fully understand that people who haven't experienced it may scoff at the notion, but there is IMHO definitely something else out there that causes some people to merge on a deeper level.
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Siberys wrote:Was this meant as sarcasm? Pretty sure I didn't mention anything about lust. (Sorry, internet is hard to tell sarcasm and seriousness apart without smileys, and I like many hate the use of smileys anyway.)
Yes, it was. You just need to search in this thread on "lust" to see that nobody else had brought it up, before I did.
Oh, and it's completly incomprehensible. Here we have people who claim to believe in magic, witchcraft, God(s), and whathavye, and yet they're stomping the notion of soulmates. Nice going.
So because I have one set of beliefs outside the mainstream, I must embrace all sets of beliefs outside the mainstream. Which makes a lot of sense. :rolleyes:
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Moonbiter wrote:None taken. I quite frankly don't know how it works. I'm not religious as such, but I must admit that life and experience has shown me numerous examples of that undefinable "something else" that I can't quite name. Call it "spirit," a "sixth sense" or "The Force" or something. Also I don't think a Soulmate needs to be someone you shack up with, it can be a friend or a sibling. Anyone you share an extreme emotional bond with. I fully understand that people who haven't experienced it may scoff at the notion, but there is IMHO definitely something else out there that causes some people to merge on a deeper level.
Here we have people who claim to believe in [edit: an undefinable something else], and yet they're stomping the notion of magic, witchcraft, God(s), and whathavye. Nice going. :p
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Vicsun wrote:Here we have people who claim to believe in soulmates, and yet they're stomping the notion of magic, witchcraft, God(s), and whathavye. Nice going. :p
Did I? Ever?
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if we're going to play dumb...
Moonbiter wrote:Did I? Ever?
Did I mention you? Ever? :p



P.S. I edited my original post to better reflect your beliefs! But to answer your question: yes you did :)
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Moonbiter wrote:None taken. I quite frankly don't know how it works. I'm not religious as such, but I must admit that life and experience has shown me numerous examples of that undefinable "something else" that I can't quite name. Call it "spirit," a "sixth sense" or "The Force" or something.
The name is just a word.

...What's in a name? that which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet...


Right.
I don't care how this mysterious whathavye is called. Let's call it a "spirit", for convenience. I would like to know what kind of force is able to transmit information about someone's bodily function or emotional state over long distance, unmistakably finding its target within short period of time. Quite remarkable! That leads to

My Question to the Soulmates Crowd:

What is this sentient part of a person, this soaring "spirit"?
What is this mysterious profound "spiritual level" of communication? Does it involve some sort of “soul” energy radiation? Is this spiritual "energy" governed by natural laws? How does this psychic whathavye travel across the continents? Any distance at all? Attenuation? Impedance? Propagation speed? I don’t think so… I bet we are talking about telepathy and psychokinesis.

And, as Stephen Colbert says, that’s the word.
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The various theories of quantum mechanics (there are eight or nine of them) are way over my head, but I think it's worth pointing out here that the most widely accepted theories, including the Copenhagen Interpretation, which is the most popular among physicists, maintain that there is no reality in the absence of human observation, or for the purpose of our debate, human consciousness. I'm not saying that there is any type of "spiritual communication" between two souls, but I am saying that science only goes so far in explaining how the world works, so it isn't wise to place too much reliance upon it. Especially not if you can't understand quantum mechanics, which includes most of us here. :)

If you're not familiar with quantum mechanics, do some research sometime, if you dare. I know just enough about it to screw me up for the rest of my life. :)

Classical mechanics and Newtonian physics give us a comforting view of the physical world, because our common sense tells us that there is actually a real, solid world outside our own minds that obeys immutable laws. It seems obvious to the enlightened Western mind, right? But when you study physics at the quantum level, it just ain't so. If you've never studied it before, it will blow your mind. For example, atomic subparticles can indeed "communicate" with each other in the absence of any apparent, uh, "physical" connection (the concept of physical connections doesn't really apply to such particles), and "events" are merely our interpretation of a reality that cannot truly be understood by the human mind without resorting to mathematical abstractions. Not even Albert Einstein could grapple with the apparent element of probability (which in my opinion he took far too literally because he himself confused our observation of reality with reality itself). But when you get down to the smallest measurable levels of reality, you'll see that the building blocks of the universe are not "solid" at all, and their behavior isn't predictable in the usual sense of the word. (One of the problems is that you can't make observations without affecting the outcome, which is one of the easier concepts to grasp.) So much for "laws of physics". :)

Therefore, I am completely open to the idea that human consciousness can alter the behavior of matter. I'm not talking about telekinesis; I'm talking about something much more subtle. In my opinion, it's the only way that any of us could have free will. But don't expect me to explain how it works. At this point, no one can (that I know of).

So if anyone else wants to postulate a link between two separate conscious minds, I don't see anything wrong with such speculation. Personally, I prefer science and rigorous philosophy to "psychobabble" and emotional/confessional "reasoning", but I will grant that there are more things in heaven and earth than science and philosophy can indisputably explain or disprove.
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VonDondu wrote:The various theories of quantum mechanics (there are eight or nine of them) are way over my head, but I think it's worth pointing out here that the most widely accepted theories, including the Copenhagen Interpretation, which is the most popular among physicists, maintain that there is no reality in the absence of human observation, or for the purpose of our debate, human consciousness.
Please stop reading pseudoscientific literature, it makes the physicist in me cry :(
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"Pseudoscientific literature"? Um, you have no idea who you have just insulted. Here is a sample of the articles and books from which I have taken my material:

"Quantum Mysteries for Anyone" by N. David Mermin

"Bertlmann's Socks and the Nature of Reality" by J. S. Bell

an English translation of Schroedinger's "Cat Paradox Paper" (I think the original title was "The Present Situation in Quantum Mechanics")

"The Quantum Postulate and the Recent Development of Atomic Theory" by Neils Bohr

"Causality and Complementarity" by Neils Bohr

Physics and Philosophy by Werner Heisenberg, specifically Chapter 3, "The Copenhagen Interpretation of Quantum Theory" and Chapter 8, "Criticism and Counterproposals to the Copenhagen Interpretation of Quantum Theory"

Quantum Mechanics by Leonard Schiff

Quantum Mechanics by Albert Messiah

"Can Quantum-Mechanical Description of Reality Be Considered Complete?" by Albert Einstein, Boris Podolsky, and Nathan Rosen (a.k.a. "EPR")

"Can Quantum-Mechanical Description of Reality Be Considered Complete?" (a complementary article with the same title) by Neils Bohr, in which he argues (among other things) that you can't have a simultaneous measurement of position and momentum, which means that his "verificationism" conflicts with Einstein's "completeness" theorem

and various books and articles by philosophers (ok, they're not true "scientists") such as:

"Determinism and Indeterminism in Modern Science" by Wesley C. Salmon

"Einstein's Critique of Quantum Theory: The Roots and Significance of EPR" by Arthur Fine ("EPR" refers to Einstein/Podolsky/Rosen, of course)

"The Two Problems of Quantum Measurement" by Arthur Fine

"The Projection Postulate and Bohr's Interpretation of Quantum Mechanics" by Paul Teller



You don't need to apologize to ME. [EDIT: I myself might be guilty of "pseudoscientific" musings, but you can't blame it on my sources.] But I'd be a little embarrassed if I were you. :)
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VonDondu wrote: You don't need to apologize to ME. [EDIT: I myself might be guilty of "pseudoscientific" musings, but you can't blame it on my sources.] But I'd be a little embarrassed if I were you. :)
"there is no reality in the absence of human observation, or for the purpose of our debate, human consciousness."

Can you give me a source for this, then? Specifically the part about human observation (as opposed to observation by an animal or an inanimate object) and human consciousness influencing reality.

e: I'm not arguing that observation doesn't change reality - it demonstrably does. However there's nothing special about human observation or human consciousness that would influence the world on a quantum level, and QM certainly doesn't pave the way for a link between two separate conscious minds.
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Vicsun wrote:"there is no reality in the absence of human observation, or for the purpose of our debate, human consciousness."

Can you give me a source for this, then? Specifically the part about human observation (as opposed to observation by an animal or an inanimate object) and human consciousness influencing reality.
You're taking the "human" part of that description a little bit too literally. When we're talking about measurements at the quantum level, I suppose what we're really talking about is what a physicist can "see" with the use of scientific instruments, not an ordinary human being, and not the naked eye. I don't believe in Martians, and animals can't grasp the concept of scientific measurement/observation, so the only reason why the term "human" comes into play here is because we're talking about scientific activity, which is specifically a human endeavor.

As for the source of this idea, a great place to start would be "Quantum Mysteries for Anyone" by N. David Mermin, but I can't find a free version for everyone to read because it is still under copyright. However, you can find indirect references to it all over the place because Mermin famously made the claim, "The moon is demonstrably not there when no one is looking," and he devised an experiment to prove it that even a non-scientific audience can understand. (Mermin is really good at that, and I'd like to read a book of his that I just found out about.) Here is a related article by Mermin.

For a nice summary of the debate between the realists such as Einstein and the idealists such as Bohr and Heisenberg (proponents of the Copenhagen Interpretation), try this article. Their arguments are what gave rise to Mermin's own philosophical musings. Take a look at the author's use of the terms "human mind" and "human consciousness" and maybe you'll see the kind of context I intended.

Vicsun wrote:there's nothing special about human observation or human consciousness that would influence the world on a quantum level, and QM certainly doesn't pave the way for a link between two separate conscious minds.
I'm not so sure that human choices cannot change the behavior of subatomic particles. If they can't, then I don't see any choice but to believe in determinism, but I'm not ready to give up on free will just yet. :) So that's why I welcome speculation (as long as it's reasonable).

I agree that QM does not pave the way for a link between two separate conscious minds. In the first place, QM is not concerned with such things. In the second place, even if we have the ability to alter the effects of subatomic activity inside our own brains, telepathy is too big of a leap for me. I actually said, "I'm not saying that there is any type of 'spiritual communication' between two souls," and that's actually what I was alluding to. But I'm sort of an Idealist myself in the classical sense of the word, and I think if we start talking about things, we might eventually learn something about the things we're talking about, and if we end up with a theory that accurately explains how things work, then that sounds like progress to me. So I don't discourage any sort of reasonable speculation.

The book I mentioned by Albert Messiah (it's a well-known classic) not only explains the basic principles of quantum mechanics, it also explains why the well-defined principles of classical physics do not apply to phenomena at the quantum level. It avoids some of the loopier philosophical leaps that someone like Heisenberg was famous for, but the fundamentals of QM make it clear that you can't describe all phenomena in classical terms.

I take Neils Bohr at his word when he claimed that QM was not about reality. He said:

"There is no quantum world. There is only an abstract physical description. It is wrong to think that the task of physics is to find out how nature is. Physics concerns what we can say about nature... What is it that we humans depend on? We depend on our words. Our task is to communicate experience and ideas to others. We are suspended in language. We must strive continually to extend the scope of our description, but in such a way that our messages do not lose their objective or ambiguous character." (as quoted in "The Philosophy of Niels Bohr" by Aage Petersen)

My own interpretation is that just because QM has a limited scope in what it attempts to describe, that doesn't mean we can't resort to other types of descriptions to explain the things that QM does not address. And I don't think it's necessary for those other descriptions to be fully consistent with a theory such as QM that has no place for them. Just as QM does not pave the way for a spiritually-oriented theory of reality, I don't think it necessarily excludes any other theory from being operative on its own terms. You just have to use your own judgment to decide whether you think such theories are crap. :)
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If you're not familiar with quantum mechanics, do some research sometime, if you dare.
Um, you have no idea who you have just insulted. You might be surprised to find out that I actually studied quantum mechanics - during my college years, before most debaters here started learning their ABC's. My knowledge got very rusty since then but I would still dare to conduct a brief research, if need be. Never judge someone's education by someone's full of typos casual posts in a gaming forum. Might be embarrassing. You don't need to apologize to me.

I posted a question for those who believe in "soulmates":

How does this "something else" travel across the continents, conveying information from one half-mate to another? If you wish to explain this phenomenon by means of quantum mechanics, please do. Any hypothesis will do, even idealistic. :)

Any, except, "Mommy, there is something under my bed when it is dark. I don't know what it is, but I am sure it's gonna eat me".

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