[QUOTE=Nasuke]So i am so nervous right now, you see, i've been talking to this girl that lives near me for awhile now, and she really likes me, iono why, but she does. She was having problems with this guy she liked, and the more i help'd her out with it, the more she started like me more than him. Now she is gonna come over 2day or 2morrow and are going to spar(hehe, she knows karate and i know a little stuff too
), then just hang out for the rest of the day.I have no prob with that whatsoever, BUT SHE SAID WANTS ME TO KISS HER!!!!
she hasn't even been kissed yet and she wants me too, cause she is too shy to say it in person.Another thing i'm nervous about is, the way i fight is like Tae-Kwon_Do and other stuff, and i do alot of grappling....hmmm, this is going to lead somewhere i think.
WHY AM I SO NERVOUS?? This is not the first time i've ever "been" with a girl before!?!? I NEED HELP!![/QUOTE]
Ah yes, the whole "I need advice on my ***hole boyfriend (or bf to be) so I go to this guy, and he ends up better than my guy" thing. I deal with that A LOT. I end the guy my friends go to for a shoulder to cry on, someone to rant about their problems and relationship advice. A few times the girl figured why go to a guy who knew how to treat her for advice on her boyfriend, when she could just stick with the guy who knew how to treat her.
First thing, are they dating, or is she interested?
Second, do you like her? If this is something that she does seem interested in you, and wants to push a relationship with you further than it's gone before in her experience, that happens to be important. Wanting and liking are two different things. Do you just want her, or would you like a relationship?
If you just want her, and she seems interested in you I highly suggest that you make it a point to let her know that.
If you are interested in getting closer with her, let her know that too if she expresses more interest in you. Compliments, and genuine, make them genuine. Don't lie through your teeth trying to get a girl. If you like her eyes, tell her, but don't do so unless you really do you know? She may ask why you say so, and then you'll have to make something up if you don't really like her eyes, or whatever you say to her.
Don't try pushing her into anything. Some girls like guys who take charge and sort of tug them along, others can't stand them, or are frightened by that. Be courteous, offer her food and drinks, ask if she needs anything etc.
If she said she wants to kiss you already, then, spend some time with her first. Let her know you enjoy spending time with her, just to have time with her, and not just to pounce on her. Chances are it will reinforce those reasons she wanted to kiss you in the first place. Girls like romance and if you don't give them conversation and closeness and company, they aren't going to want to cuddle up to you and kiss you most likely. Not all girls are like that, but even the ones I've met that just want sex and no relationship still like that attention regardless.
If she ends up giving you signals making you feel like she's done with talking or sparring and you think she still wants to kiss you and you her, look her in the eyes and tell her that you'd like to do so. If she says no, then you just said so, and haven't gone and pushed unwanted physical attention on her. If she says yes, you make it clear to her you want her to be comfortable and ask her before doing anything. If it's her first kiss, feeling comfortable may make sure she goes through with her instincts and doesn't get scared and back down.
Don't go grabbing and such either, you might end up curled up in the fetal position. Especially considering the whole martial arts training. If your going to kiss her, just kiss her. Let her actions guide you. If she enjoys it, run your fingers through her hair, or something simple like that.
