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So i am so nervous right now, you see, i've been talking to this girl that lives near me for awhile now, and she really likes me, iono why, but she does. She was having problems with this guy she liked, and the more i help'd her out with it, the more she started like me more than him. Now she is gonna come over 2day or 2morrow and are going to spar(hehe, she knows karate and i know a little stuff too ), then just hang out for the rest of the day.I have no prob with that whatsoever, BUT SHE SAID WANTS ME TO KISS HER!!!!
she hasn't even been kissed yet and she wants me too, cause she is too shy to say it in person.Another thing i'm nervous about is, the way i fight is like Tae-Kwon_Do and other stuff, and i do alot of grappling....hmmm, this is going to lead somewhere i think. WHY AM I SO NERVOUS?? This is not the first time i've ever "been" with a girl before!?!? I NEED HELP!!

[QUOTE=Nasuke]So i am so nervous right now, you see, i've been talking to this girl that lives near me for awhile now, and she really likes me, iono why, but she does. She was having problems with this guy she liked, and the more i help'd her out with it, the more she started like me more than him. Now she is gonna come over 2day or 2morrow and are going to spar(hehe, she knows karate and i know a little stuff too ), then just hang out for the rest of the day.I have no prob with that whatsoever, BUT SHE SAID WANTS ME TO KISS HER!!!!
she hasn't even been kissed yet and she wants me too, cause she is too shy to say it in person.Another thing i'm nervous about is, the way i fight is like Tae-Kwon_Do and other stuff, and i do alot of grappling....hmmm, this is going to lead somewhere i think. WHY AM I SO NERVOUS?? This is not the first time i've ever "been" with a girl before!?!? I NEED HELP!![/QUOTE]

enjoy

but seriously though, you should kiss her but not as the first thing you do.. you could suggest after-spar shower with you but maybe i'm not the right person to advise in this.. if you meant this as a 100%serious no spam thread i'll edit my post if you want me to..

Enjoy... follow her lead, because she seems to know what she wants.

You should casually kiss her, like it's no big deal. It'll break ice.

hmm, thx guys, but wht about my stupid nervousness? grr, im so not like this all the time!!

@Locke:dont worry, i dont really care about spam.
and i will do tht!

I recognize it. Alas, I do not now a cure. Even if you have a full plan of how and when you are going to what, you'll actually do something completely else and ridiculous.

You'll have to hope CE is here in time to save you....

yeah i know, plans never go the way you want them to, so i dont plan, BUT I NEED TO GET THESE BUTTERFLIES OUT OF MY STOMACH OR I"LL MAKE A FOOL OF MYSELF!!

[QUOTE=Nasuke]yeah i know, plans never go the way you want them to, so i dont plan, BUT I NEED TO GET THESE BUTTERFLIES OUT OF MY STOMACH OR I"LL MAKE A FOOL OF MYSELF!! [/QUOTE]

first, tell her that you are nervous. no reason trying to act like you're confident and **** if you're not. THAT's when you make a fool of yourself. tell her that she's so pretty whatever and that you're nervous and she'll go easy on you. after that if you can pull it through with merits you might get some in end.. or not, it depends on the girl i guess

Ok firstly take it easy. Let her take the lead if you are uncomfortable. First question is do you like her as well? If you like her then take it forward. If you don't like her then well step aside and don't encourage her. If you feel that this is an easy way to get laid or get some action tell me where you live and i will send someone over to castrate you

But seriously before she comes over decide which is it. Do you like her or not. If you like her we are guessing that is it, do not try too much the first time. Esp since she hasn't even been kissed before. So take it easy. Relax and let her make the first move.

Be subtle and ambigious at first. No need to hurt her feelings off the bat if you are not interested.

Plus i swear you posted a picture of you and your girlfriend did you not? Maybe it was someone else.

[QUOTE=Nasuke]yeah i know, plans never go the way you want them to, so i dont plan, BUT I NEED TO GET THESE BUTTERFLIES OUT OF MY STOMACH OR I"LL MAKE A FOOL OF MYSELF!! [/QUOTE]
Thou shalt not succeed. Try as you like, it's not going to happen for quite some time.

Get used to it, it can be a nice feeling too. But as I said, I don't have the cure, yet.

[QUOTE=ik911]Thou shalt not succeed. Try as you like, it's not going to happen for quite some time.

Get used to it, it can be a nice feeling too. But as I said, I don't have the cure, yet. [/QUOTE]

Cure my ass. I like the fact that i get bees and wasps in my stomach when i see WR

[QUOTE=CM]Cure my ass. I like the fact that i get bees and wasps in my stomach when i see WR [/QUOTE]
Me too.


*runs*



(but yeah, as I said, it can be a nice feeling.)

[QUOTE=CM]Cure my ass. I like the fact that i get bees and wasps in my stomach when i see WR [/QUOTE]

bees and wasps? that can't feel good. i mean butterflies are cute and cuddly, like li'l kittens running across the grass but bees and wasps? they sting.. your stomach must be really bumby from the inside..

[QUOTE=ik911]Me too.


*runs*



(but yeah, as I said, it can be a nice feeling.)[/QUOTE]

No spamming and detracting from subject ok? *grabs baseball bat and whacks Ik's head for a homer *

bah its better to be bumpy on the inside then getting hit by WR all the time. That is one abusive girl. Very physical and in all the wrong ways

Btw i am not spamming anymore in here. I am going to the pervert thread. I feel at home there.

[QUOTE=CM]Ok firstly take it easy. Let her take the lead if you are uncomfortable. First question is do you like her as well? If you like her then take it forward. If you don't like her then well step aside and don't encourage her. If you feel that this is an easy way to get laid or get some action tell me where you live and i will send someone over to castrate you

But seriously before she comes over decide which is it. Do you like her or not. If you like her we are guessing that is it, do not try too much the first time. Esp since she hasn't even been kissed before. So take it easy. Relax and let her make the first move.

Be subtle and ambigious at first. No need to hurt her feelings off the bat if you are not interested.

Plus i swear you posted a picture of you and your girlfriend did you not? Maybe it was someone else.[/QUOTE]

ok i like her, and that MIGHT be the reason, but ive never acted like this b4, and yeah, that WAS my gf, but she had to move to go to college
ill try that stuff though, but i never told a girl i was nervous b4. So it's kinda degrading to me, but if u really think i should then i will.

dude. no matter who the woman/girl is they appreciate when man tells them something like that.. atleast you'll have an excellent reason if you fumble etc. so she doesn't think your clumsy/like that all the time. that's something you gotta make her understand.

Whoa hold on there. Do not do anything you do not want to do. First rule never take anything i say with regard to women literally and directly. My run in with women has been horrendous. Ask WR, she was shocked. Anyway i say let her take the lead. As she is very new to this she is gonna be nervous and as you are nervous things could very easily go bad.

No need to tell her you are nervous if that makes you feel awkward. You are gonna have to play this my ear. Do everything you normally do with her. If you see her and hug her or whatever. Do not be reserved. She will notice that right away and you know how women see one thing and jump all the logical steps and hit something totally illogical.

Personal opinion if you are distant and reserved she will see that some how as you not liking her or being upset with her or not wanting to kiss her. I fail to see the logic myself but i am betting that is what will happen. But i am not 100% sure.

I would suggest like everybody else that let her take the lead. Secondly do not go too far the first time. I personally have seen friends get into bed too quickly and mess things up.

But i would wait for DW, Scayde and CE to drop by and advise. I personally go to these three with my women issues. 2 years now and they have yet to fail me

[QUOTE=Nasuke]So i am so nervous right now, you see, i've been talking to this girl that lives near me for awhile now, and she really likes me, iono why, but she does. She was having problems with this guy she liked, and the more i help'd her out with it, the more she started like me more than him. Now she is gonna come over 2day or 2morrow and are going to spar(hehe, she knows karate and i know a little stuff too ), then just hang out for the rest of the day.I have no prob with that whatsoever, BUT SHE SAID WANTS ME TO KISS HER!!!!
she hasn't even been kissed yet and she wants me too, cause she is too shy to say it in person.Another thing i'm nervous about is, the way i fight is like Tae-Kwon_Do and other stuff, and i do alot of grappling....hmmm, this is going to lead somewhere i think. WHY AM I SO NERVOUS?? This is not the first time i've ever "been" with a girl before!?!? I NEED HELP!![/QUOTE]

Ah yes, the whole "I need advice on my ***hole boyfriend (or bf to be) so I go to this guy, and he ends up better than my guy" thing. I deal with that A LOT. I end the guy my friends go to for a shoulder to cry on, someone to rant about their problems and relationship advice. A few times the girl figured why go to a guy who knew how to treat her for advice on her boyfriend, when she could just stick with the guy who knew how to treat her.

First thing, are they dating, or is she interested?

Second, do you like her? If this is something that she does seem interested in you, and wants to push a relationship with you further than it's gone before in her experience, that happens to be important. Wanting and liking are two different things. Do you just want her, or would you like a relationship?

If you just want her, and she seems interested in you I highly suggest that you make it a point to let her know that.

If you are interested in getting closer with her, let her know that too if she expresses more interest in you. Compliments, and genuine, make them genuine. Don't lie through your teeth trying to get a girl. If you like her eyes, tell her, but don't do so unless you really do you know? She may ask why you say so, and then you'll have to make something up if you don't really like her eyes, or whatever you say to her.

Don't try pushing her into anything. Some girls like guys who take charge and sort of tug them along, others can't stand them, or are frightened by that. Be courteous, offer her food and drinks, ask if she needs anything etc.

If she said she wants to kiss you already, then, spend some time with her first. Let her know you enjoy spending time with her, just to have time with her, and not just to pounce on her. Chances are it will reinforce those reasons she wanted to kiss you in the first place. Girls like romance and if you don't give them conversation and closeness and company, they aren't going to want to cuddle up to you and kiss you most likely. Not all girls are like that, but even the ones I've met that just want sex and no relationship still like that attention regardless.

If she ends up giving you signals making you feel like she's done with talking or sparring and you think she still wants to kiss you and you her, look her in the eyes and tell her that you'd like to do so. If she says no, then you just said so, and haven't gone and pushed unwanted physical attention on her. If she says yes, you make it clear to her you want her to be comfortable and ask her before doing anything. If it's her first kiss, feeling comfortable may make sure she goes through with her instincts and doesn't get scared and back down.

Don't go grabbing and such either, you might end up curled up in the fetal position. Especially considering the whole martial arts training. If your going to kiss her, just kiss her. Let her actions guide you. If she enjoys it, run your fingers through her hair, or something simple like that.

[QUOTE=Magrus]Ah yes, the whole "I need advice on my ***hole boyfriend (or bf to be) so I go to this guy, and he ends up better than my guy" thing. I deal with that A LOT. I end the guy my friends go to for a shoulder to cry on, someone to rant about their problems and relationship advice. A few times the girl figured why go to a guy who knew how to treat her for advice on her boyfriend, when she could just stick with the guy who knew how to treat her.

First thing, are they dating, or is she interested?

Second, do you like her? If this is something that she does seem interested in you, and wants to push a relationship with you further than it's gone before in her experience, that happens to be important. Wanting and liking are two different things. Do you just want her, or would you like a relationship?

If you just want her, and she seems interested in you I highly suggest that you make it a point to let her know that.

If you are interested in getting closer with her, let her know that too if she expresses more interest in you. Compliments, and genuine, make them genuine. Don't lie through your teeth trying to get a girl. If you like her eyes, tell her, but don't do so unless you really do you know? She may ask why you say so, and then you'll have to make something up if you don't really like her eyes, or whatever you say to her.

Don't try pushing her into anything. Some girls like guys who take charge and sort of tug them along, others can't stand them, or are frightened by that. Be courteous, offer her food and drinks, ask if she needs anything etc.

If she said she wants to kiss you already, then, spend some time with her first. Let her know you enjoy spending time with her, just to have time with her, and not just to pounce on her. Chances are it will reinforce those reasons she wanted to kiss you in the first place. Girls like romance and if you don't give them conversation and closeness and company, they aren't going to want to cuddle up to you and kiss you most likely. Not all girls are like that, but even the ones I've met that just want sex and no relationship still like that attention regardless.

If she ends up giving you signals making you feel like she's done with talking or sparring and you think she still wants to kiss you and you her, look her in the eyes and tell her that you'd like to do so. If she says no, then you just said so, and haven't gone and pushed unwanted physical attention on her. If she says yes, you make it clear to her you want her to be comfortable and ask her before doing anything. If it's her first kiss, feeling comfortable may make sure she goes through with her instincts and doesn't get scared and back down.

Don't go grabbing and such either, you might end up curled up in the fetal position. Especially considering the whole martial arts training. If your going to kiss her, just kiss her. Let her actions guide you. If she enjoys it, run your fingers through her hair, or something simple like that.[/QUOTE]

hmm..i want her, but i also want to be with her, and she likes me, so whtever, im just going to have to wait for whtever happens, and the DFs too of course.

[QUOTE=Nasuke]hmm..i want her, but i also want to be with her, and she likes me, so whtever, im just going to have to wait for whtever happens, and the DFs too of course. [/QUOTE]

Yeah, a good way to go is just do what feels natural. Go with your instincts, but see to it you don't let your hormones take over either. If you want to be with her, definately try making her comfortable and showing that you do LIKE her, not just WANT her. I've found that doing little things, which I happen to enjoy doing anyways, like making a girl dinner, going for walks with them, talking, etc ends up making them incredibly happy. That whole "you scrub my back, I'll scrub yours" comment comes to me, keep that in mind with a girl and you should be ok. You please them, generally they'll be more than happy to return the favor.