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Post by Nightmare »

Originally posted by Aegis
As much as I'd like to take your advice, I'm not sure I can. These feelings are too strong...

@All: I apologize for bringing this up. I'm sure people have better things to discuss (or brood) about then my current state of affairs...
You're the center of attention in this thread. Don't back out now. :p ;)

The more you keep up the hope that you two will get together, the longer it will hurt. Sorry to say this, but move on. :( I'm sure there are other ladies waiting for you. :)
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I don't want to give up hope though, as much as it hurts. There is a very specific reason for the too, and that's because I know if she didn't have similar feelings, she wouldn't be as distraught about this as I am...

In the meantime, I think I'll distract myself with the porn thread...
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I'm up for getting a cheap bottle of booze and a room at the heartbreak hotel with any female around. I'm a specialist in permiscuous, uninhibited behavior punctuated with a flair for shots of brandy.

@Aegis, sorry man; it sux but CE is right.
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Originally posted by Aegis
I don't want to give up hope though, as much as it hurts. There is a very specific reason for the too, and that's because I know if she didn't have similar feelings, she wouldn't be as distraught about this as I am...

In the meantime, I think I'll distract myself with the porn thread...
I'm really sorry to hear of your situation. I agree with what others have said, that you need to look forward. But nonetheless, knowing that doesn't really take away the pain of the present so...*hug*
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I'm glad I got people like you to be able to come to and talk to. It means a lot. Thank you, to everybody.
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Well Aegis, I am sorry to hear about it dude. But we have all been in sucky situations like that. Doesn't make it easier, but at least you can know you aren't alone with what you feel. :)

and, of course, I will be here to drink with you. :D
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@ Aegis. Let me tell you a story.

I was just a little gaffer, back in grade 5. And I met this girl who I though was so amazing. Was in my class for years, and still is. I had the HUGEST crush on her all through elementary. Asked her out finally in grade 7.
Alas she just wanted to be friends.
Needless to say, I was devastated. 2 years I wanted her. However, that still didnt snap me out of it, and 2 years later in grade 9, fresh into highschool, I still wanted her, but I'd had a couple of relationships with other people, but in my mind, none could hold candle to her.
Out of the blue, entering finals of grade 9 (ya laugh, gr 9 finals are nothing) She asked ME out.
Now seeing as how I wanted her for 4 years now, I couldn't possibly say no.

The relationship lasted 2 weeks, and was BRUTAL. We had become such close friends that it wasn't possible, and all the things that had built up in my mind over the years over what it would be like to be with her was WRONG. Nothing seemed right. We parted company, but are still close friends, and spend a lot of time together.

So to sum up, she wasnt worth it. Despite what I thought, she wasn't. Now, to hell with trying to find the "one". I'll find pretty, smart fun young ladies to hang out with while I'm still handsome and charming. :D

Doesn't exclude the possibility of long term relationships, but we are teenagers, we really only want one (k, maybe 2) things out of a relationship.
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Originally posted by Obsidian
I'll find pretty, smart fun young ladies to hang out with while I'm still handsome and charming.
*cough*Too late!*cough* :D :p
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Originally posted by Georgi


*cough*Too late!*cough* :D :p
*passes Georgi some lozenges* :D
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Originally posted by dragon wench
*passes Georgi some lozenges*
Ah, just what I need... you're too kind :D
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Originally posted by Aegis
I don't want to give up hope though, as much as it hurts. There is a very specific reason for the too, and that's because I know if she didn't have similar feelings, she wouldn't be as distraught about this as I am...
I of course don't know the details, but are you sure her distress is because she have similar feelings, and not for other reasons? I might be off, there might be lots of things I don't know about the situation that would change my assessment of it, but I can only think of all my personal experience from similar situations :(

I can't count all the times I've been in the sad situation where a guy I really like and know well wish to have a relationship with me, but I don't have the same kind of feelings towards him. Worst are the situations where the guy is a close friend to me, and somebody I really feel I should fall in love with since he's such a great person - but you can't force yourself to love somebody if the right feelings aren't there. I've been distressed and sad many times because I've felt that I'm a horrible person who don't fall in love with this great guy, because I've felt I hurt people I really like, and because I've felt close friendship has been destroyed. I've been crying together with one of my best friend because after we've been close friends for many years, he revealed he loved he as a woman and couldn't stand to have a friendship relationship with me any longer, so I had to choose between a relationship with him or loosing him entierly. He'd been in so much pain for so long time, and felt that he'd rather kill himself than continue like this. :( Of course I had to choose to loose him since I wasn't and had never been in love with him, and since then, I've never seen him again :( He sent me a mail a couple of year ago, telling he had moved to another town.

Now, do you know the reason why she is distraught? It may be for the same reasons as I was, and the best thing would be if you two talked it through so you are sure you do not live in false hope :(

Good luck Aegis *hug*
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Originally posted by Obsidian

So to sum up, she wasnt worth it. Despite what I thought, she wasn't. Now, to hell with trying to find the "one". I'll find pretty, smart fun young ladies to hang out with while I'm still handsome and charming. :D

Doesn't exclude the possibility of long term relationships, but we are teenagers, we really only want one (k, maybe 2) things out of a relationship.
Well, the difference is, is that you got your chance. I never really got mine.
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@Georgi
you're too kind

Obviously you're not!!
I'm only 17!
Yeesh. Any ways, you've never seen me. If I ever get a digital pic of me I'll use it as my avatar.

As for my good buddy Aegis, the point I'm trying to make is even if you get a chance, it's not worth it. Let me rephrase that. I could be worth it. But the likely hood of it being THAT good is slim, especially with the situation you've mentioned. And I have to agree with CE on the feelings of her distraughtness. She feels bad because she is the cause of your unhappiness. Imho that is.

So, stay friends with her. Back off would be my advice. If you are half as well spoken as you are written, you flirt like a mad man, and well. just step back, and if she does have feelings for you, you'll find out in a month or two. Til then, try and find a short term fun relationship
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Originally posted by dragon wench


*passes Georgi some lozenges* :D
I believe you forgot the truth serum... :D ;) :p
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I believe you forgot the truth serum...

Ya, then she'd be forced to acknowledge my devastating good looks!! :D :cool:

I'm gonna have to steal Aegis spotlight for a second though. You see, there are currently 2 very attractive (imo) girls who'd like to see me. The downside, is that I want to see both of them. Currently, we all are in different schools and rarely see each other, maybe 1ce a week, if that. And I cannot decide which one I want to spend more time with as more than just friends.

Since they don't know each other, would it be fair game to go out with both of them until I decided which one for sure?
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Post by C Elegans »

Originally posted by Obsidian
Since they don't know each other, would it be fair game to go out with both of them until I decided which one for sure?
Of course it would - provided that you tell them both you are seeing somebody else too until you have made your mind up, and that they both accept this. :)
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Hey, Aegis...

...I would like to think that despite the absence of details (hey, you don't owe us any ;) ) I may have really gotten the gist of your present emotional state.

Like the others would have stated... been there, done that, got the shirt...

...I'll never forget what my Dad told me waaaaay back when he got mad at me for being in such a bad state after getting that "let's just be friends" sucker punch...

...he said, "Son, no matter how good she is for you, if she doesn't love you, SHE's NOT WORTH IT!"

What's the use of being with your ladylove all day all night knowing pretty well that she does not reciprocate your feelings? :rolleyes:

Move on, dude. Be good to yourself. :)
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Well, as much as I ant this pain to stop, I think I should talk to her in person, and find out exactly where she stands with her feelings. If she tells me that she doesn't return the feelings, I guess I gotta accept that. If she does, though, I don't know what I'm gonna do...
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Do that, my friend...
Originally posted by Aegis
Well, as much as I ant this pain to stop, I think I should talk to her in person, and find out exactly where she stands with her feelings. If she tells me that she doesn't return the feelings, I guess I gotta accept that. If she does, though, I don't know what I'm gonna do...
...you owe it to yourself if moving on you must ;) ...

...HOWEVER...

...if she does reciprocate, one must accept the conditions both of you agree on if the relationship will take place...

... and of course your rowdy brothers here at SYM are always prepared for a celebration at the Rolling Thunder parked right inside The Men's Room. :cool:

Good luck, amigo. :)
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Post by Beldin »

Originally posted by Obsidian

Since they don't know each other, would it be fair game to go out with both of them until I decided which one for sure?
YES.

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