OMG!!I neeed advice!!NOW, hehe, plz?

C Elegans · Post by **C Elegans** » Thu Apr 07, 2005 2:50 am

Sorry for not replying until now, I tend to avoid threads with "OMG" and "plz" in the title.

[QUOTE=Nasuke]WHY AM I SO NERVOUS?? This is not the first time i've ever "been" with a girl before!?!? I NEED HELP!![/QUOTE]

I think you are nervous because you know in advance that you are going to kiss her. If you just kissed her spontaneously, when the situation felt right, you probably wouldn't be very nervous just before you did it. Now, you know far in advance that you are going to do it, and also, she has asked for it because she has not kissed somebody before, so that also adds a performance part to it - you want to do well, you want to make a good impression at her, and knowing in beforehand that you must make a good impression at somebody make many people nervous.

First of all, I think you should do some simple exercises in order to reduce your nervousness when she arrives. Before she arrives, sit down and take some very deep breaths and every time you breath in, breath out really slowly, like 20-30 seconds, before you breath in again. Think consciously of relaxing your neck, shoulders, face muscles, etc- I am sure you know how to relax your body.

When she arrives, start with offering her something to drink and/or eat and sit down and chat about something or show her your house or whatever. Then after a while (perhaps half and hour or so), kiss her the way Obsidian has described.

Don't get too excited over this, it may be that she is just curious to try, she may not at all be interesting in anything more than this one kiss.

Also, I don't think you should tell her that you are nervous, because if she has never kissed someone before she might be quite nervous herself, and it might add to her nervousness if you say you are nervous. Often, when you do something the first time, it feels better if the other person knows how to do it.

Nasuke · Post by **Nasuke** » Thu Apr 07, 2005 9:37 am

Well...it wasn't what i thought it would be. We ended up having to meet eachother at a Inn&Out (a fast food place in case some of you dont know

) because her mom wanted to meet me.

i met her and her brother too.we were there for awhile because rachel(the girl) wanted to stay there longer than intended.

we even held hands under the table!(she got in trouble with some guy awile ago and i had no clue we would do something like that right under her moms nose!) I think it went well, and i cant wait tto see her again.
@CE: thankz, why dont you check threads with omg and plz? i was just worried so i couldent think straight.

@Obsidian:hmmm...why shouldent i talk to girls on the internet??

It's just like talking on the phone!! lol

C Elegans · Post by **C Elegans** » Thu Apr 07, 2005 9:55 am

@Nasuke: Sounds good so far

Hope you can see her soon again!

Nasuke wrote:why dont you check threads with omg and plz? i was just worried so i couldent think straight.

Because many, certainly not all, but many, kids who want to fulfil the stereotype role of leet kid and view themselves as very cool for this, tend to write like that. Also, I've played a lot of Diablo II in my day, and if you have ever played in open games at Bnet, you would understand why I shun at OMG and plz! All the kids who want you give them items for free, help them with rushes and quests, and all those who cheat, spread false rumours and try to scam players in different ways....well, it simply gives me bad associations based on what I have seen previously. For a general discussion of language and abbreviations here at SYM, read this thread:
http://gamebanshee.com/forums/showthrea ... t=language

@Obsidian:hmmm...why shouldent i talk to girls on the internet?? It's just like talking on the phone!! lol

I don't know what Obsidian is referring to, but I think it is generally good advice not to trust internet communication too much until you've got the same information confirmed in real life. The reason for this is that misunderstandings is more common when people don't see each other. Human communication is based on many more cues that just words and their meaning; we also use facial expression, body posture, tonality and other information. If you speak by phone, you miss all visual information but not tonality. If you use internet, you miss both visual and auditory information. The more you miss, the more prone your communication will be for misunderstandings.

Nasuke · Post by **Nasuke** » Thu Apr 07, 2005 11:04 am

[QUOTE=C Elegans]@Nasuke: Sounds good so far

Hope you can see her soon again! [/QUOTE]
yup! it will be good if we do.

[QUOTE=C Elegans]Because many, certainly not all, but many, kids who want to fulfil the stereotype role of leet kid and view themselves as very cool for this, tend to write like that. Also, I've played a lot of Diablo II in my day, and if you have ever played in open games at Bnet, you would understand why I shun at OMG and plz! All the kids who want you give them items for free, help them with rushes and quests, and all those who cheat, spread false rumours and try to scam players in different ways....well, it simply gives me bad associations based on what I have seen previously. For a general discussion of language and abbreviations here at SYM, read this thread:
http://gamebanshee.com/forums/showthrea ... t=language[/QUOTE]
yeah i know, i used to play on bnet, and i would do the same thing(exept begging for money and stuff)it was dumb, i was better of doing it all myself anyway.

[QUOTE=C Elegans]I don't know what Obsidian is referring to, but I think it is generally good advice not to trust internet communication too much until you've got the same information confirmed in real life. The reason for this is that misunderstandings is more common when people don't see each other. Human communication is based on many more cues that just words and their meaning; we also use facial expression, body posture, tonality and other information. If you speak by phone, you miss all visual information but not tonality. If you use internet, you miss both visual and auditory information. The more you miss, the more prone your communication will be for misunderstandings.[/QUOTE]
ooooo...i get it now! ok, well i met her and everything, so it should be fine!